Anyone also have trouble with written communication ...

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Can I ask did you have to take some time over writing your post, because, whether you did take a while, or you didn't, I think it reads very well indeed and I certainly have no trouble at all understanding the jist of your post?!

Personally, I find being able to write almost liberating, I can write in ways that I simply cannot talk, I think, because the only thing bounding me is my imagination, that thoughts come, and flow, better from my mind when I don't have to engage in the primary [to them] but secondary [to me] aspect of oral communication, which is body language.....

None of that exists in the written format, I have the time to think a little on what I want to say which means I'm far less likely to blurt something out which I later regret, I suppose for me it sort of filters the world, so having the internet is a pretty wonderful tool for someone like myself.

Writing frustrates me as well. I don't think my writing ability reflects my actual intelligence. It also takes me much longer to write than most people. Another problem I have is that my thought patterns often branch out in many directions at once. It's difficult to organize those kinds of thoughts into a written passage that has a definite beginning, middle, and end. My thoughts tend to be organized through relationships and logical connections. They aren't organized in a specific sequence that I can easily organize into sentences/paragraphs.

Language in general frustrates me. I don't feel that I'm truly expressing myself. If only people could "see" what I'm actually seeing in my head.....the stuff that I'm unable to put into words.

I'm a little more articulate with oral language, but I don't get to say what I want to say due to the sheer pace of oral communication. I also may say things that I didn't mean to say and I want to take back.....but the damage is done because you can't sit and reflect on what you should say before you say it.

So.....lol.....I feel much more comfortable with communication via written language. I can sit and reflect on what I would like to say and I don't feel pressured to respond right. this. minute. However, I am VERY sensitive about my competence regarding my writing and even though I try to proof read I know I still make mistakes. So what would take me 3 minutes to verbalize, takes me 15+ minutes to write. LOL!

Oh well....at least I'm socializing.

The written word is the only word, the verbal is a sad imitation from sound.

I find it way easier to express myself in writing than oral. However, that is only true when I write on forums like this and the like. As long as I can write about issues I’m fine.
Writing personal letters/e-mails/PMs is harder, I think. I don’t know how to address people or what tone to use.
I don’t chat or use msn, since I am as unable to think of topics there as I am IRL. So when writing mirrors small talk or other social ways of speaking, I find writing almost as hard as talking.

It takes me longer to write something because I must carefully organize, but I feel my written skills are far superior to my oral skills. In fact, I think I can prove it since I have been published. I have an absolute fascination with language, which I think benefits my writing skills. I need them to be sharp as I do much of research and writing in my chosen career. Unfortunately, I must communicate orally, but since one must go to court prepared for any outcome and basically knowing the answers that will be given by one's witnesses, I can script it out most of the time and not appear incompetent in front of the judge and everybody.

it's better for me to write, because I talk at the same time as i think about what i want to say, so sometimes i say the wrong thing or change my sentence in mid sentence. with typing i'm a tiny bit more organized.

My son uses writting as a way of expressing pent up fustrations, as do I. With writing you can get out all of your feelings and fustrations, and if you want can tear it up, or keep it in a journal. My aspie son's writing makes no sense tho. It is very jumbled tho he does stay on subject. When speaking he jumps from topic to topic, and uses catch phrases that do not relate appropriately.
So I guess as with anyone, your abilities, and disabilities are what make you, you.