I am NOT a mind reader!

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I had similar problems, but in different areas.

Things were expected of me that I was never taught, so I've had problems in nearly every household that I've lived in because of this.

I keep telling people, if they want something from me then they should express it. I can't read minds! I almost always get laughter at this comment as if I am joking, like I seriously knew what they wanted but am playing around. Bah. Can I go live in a hole now?

A lot depends who it is. Some people - start with my mother-in-law - never actually ask. They hint [I hate hints] or less. "Oh, I need stuff from the store, but I am so tired" - and you are supposed to piuck up on that and go do it.

Others - my mother for one - she wants it, she says so. I never had to guess or get blamed for missing a signal. "Go buy milk".

For the Aspie, the hinter is a problem, especially if it is a reactive hinter.

My mother just FINALLY got that through her head. We've only known I have AS for about three-four years, in her defense, so I went through a lot of this when I was younger because she didn't realize there was a communication issue and I wasn't trying to be bad. Sometimes I have to remind her that unlike her, I have no way of processing social cues and if she wants to communicate something to me she has to use a direct method.