pandd wrote:
hiddenname wrote:
Let me explain with a simple example;
Someone: Hey, how are you?
There is no need to stress out over calculating an accurate answer to this ritual. Just follow the "form". If you want to create a negative impression, then give a slow or negative response that lacks "energy". If you want to create a positive impression of yourself in the person asking, just give a quick, positive and cheerful response and reciprocate the question. Your actual wellbeing is not the information that is being sought by this question in the overwhelming majority of instances where it is posed.
Actually, my native language is causing me to calculate an accurate answer. Because, there are many ways to ask, "how are you?", and there are also many answers that means fine, but all of them used in different situations, different ages of people, different relations, and also saying it in the right tone is important. The answer can change the whole meaning, your respect to the person in front of you. Simply giving an answer 90% doesn't work in Turkish. I have the ability to use my language well, but there are many social complexities in speaking. Turkish is not recommended for aspies, it makes social life much worse.
When I'm speaking English I can simply simply answer everything, being a much more social person, be more confident, saying the things that I can't imagine to say in my native language.
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I've used my foreign language in the message above, so please inform me about lingual mistakes that I've possibly made in there!