Are Autistic people "impossible to live with"?

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19 Feb 2010, 5:02 am

My family does not appear to have died because of living with me. Thus, I surmise that it is possible to live with me.

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19 Feb 2010, 6:07 am

I think people in general are impossible to live with. That's why I live with two cats. :lol:

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19 Feb 2010, 7:27 am

The biggest part of my day is spent in my room.
The only way I can get angry is when I go upstairs and exist in the living room.
I need not even do anything for a conflict to arise.
It seems that my family is really pissed off at everyone and I need peace and quiet which I can only get in my room, but there are certain things I cannot do in my room because I do not have a refridgerator in my room and I do not have a television in my room.
If I think completely illogically, I would think that life would be better with autistics, but I know people with autism can be very demanding and I cannot handle that.
But my family is very demanding emotionally.
My sister needs constant approval from everyone and my mother needs love, and I am not sure if I can give love or affection.
I am certainly not impossible to live with, not even that difficult, but it seems that my family is trying their best to do almost everything that ticks me off.
It certainly feels that way.
And sure there are good things, but they can turn into bad things after a while.
Such as when my sister cooks something for me, after a while she and my mother expect me to do something back, when such an arrangement has never been made.
I always think that unwritten rules are contradictory because rules need to be written down or else they are not rules at all.
I do not think of them every time I do something.
I simply think of what I want and I act towards that.

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19 Feb 2010, 7:41 am

Horses for courses. Some folks can't cope with living with me, others can. Frankly I reckon I'm better house-trained than average, but it depends on what the other people expect.

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19 Feb 2010, 11:29 am

I can be a bit tricky because I want things a certain way, I don't adapt much to other people's habits and I can't take a hint about not talking so much. It's difficult enough that my husband and I live separately, so yeah, pretty tricky.

My autistic son can be tricky too, but I can adapt better to him. I guess you're always more willing to sacrifice a bit for you children.

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19 Feb 2010, 11:34 am

It is absolutely possible that I am easy to live with.

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19 Feb 2010, 11:59 am

It depends who you're living with, but odds are most NTs won't like it that much because they think everyone should be like them, think like them, and act like them, so are annoyed by people who are different. Most won't admit that, or at least won't word it like that, but it's how most NTs think, whether they like it or not.

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19 Feb 2010, 12:14 pm

the computer which did my graphoanalysis seemed to read my ASness in my handprinting, saying i was "hard to approach, hard to get to know." but GD it! i am NOT! i am easy to know. but nobody seems to agree, including a god-damned 'puter program. the horns on my head that i can't see must be visible to other folk only.

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19 Feb 2010, 12:23 pm

Nope, it's NTs that are impossible to live with.

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19 Feb 2010, 1:54 pm

League_Girl wrote:

Age1600 wrote:

idk what u mean by impossible, but yes i agree we can be differcul to live well i know i am, my mother has to do everything for me, cook, feed me, clean, does my hair, help pick out my clothes, help me get dressed with the hard stuff, makes sure i have supervision at times, etc etc, but its not like we well i know i dont do it on purpose, i think it jus gets overwhelming for some ppl, i snooped around once and found a letter my mother wrote to DDD and to her new attorney and to the government, had names on it i couldnt read that she needs to find me a group home soon because her health is suffering from raising me, and i can understand that, but it dpeneds on the individuals, and the indidivuals takin care of them, for some autism is the only thing they know and dont see it as differcult or easy, for others it extremely differcult, and for some it maybe easier for others. i wish i could jus take my auitism away jus for a dya or to magically sprinkle "self care" dust over me so i can jus take care of myself haha, i would prob sprinkle too much knowin me and somehow get high or more autisitc haha or sprinkle it wrong lol,, i jus made myself laugh, woo i love making fun of myself haha, ok, sorry, anyways so yes can be differcult for some but not all, really depends on the individuals i think in my opinion.

That's good you can see it from your mother's point of view. What about your boyfriend? Don't you live with him?

yup, but hes not my legal guardian, but thankfully he helps so much, he does everything when my mother isnt there, and since she now works 2 jobs, he makes all the appts for me too. i feel bad for him too and my brother because i wish sometime i can turn the table to see what its liek to live with me ya know.. anyways thanks for asking aobut my bf heheh

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19 Feb 2010, 2:04 pm

Yup. I've got a roomate that I strongly suspect is on the spectrum, and he's very difficult to live with.

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19 Feb 2010, 2:07 pm

Age1600 wrote:

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That's good you can see it from your mother's point of view. What about your boyfriend? Don't you live with him?

But he is your boyfriend and I think it's their job to take care of their girlfriends. Same goes for spouses. When you love someone and they need help, you do it.

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19 Feb 2010, 2:10 pm

League_Girl wrote:

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That's good you can see it from your mother's point of view. What about your boyfriend? Don't you live with him?

But he is your boyfriend and I think it's their job to take care of their girlfriends. Same goes for spouses. When you love someone and they need help, you do it.

yea idk how it works, jus know he does what she cant do cuz of her limit of time, like my laundry, he knows how to blow dry and straighten hair, how to help get dressed, cook,. etc.

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19 Feb 2010, 2:13 pm

League_Girl wrote:

But he is your boyfriend and I think it's their job to take care of their girlfriends. Same goes for spouses. When you love someone and they need help, you do it.

Fair enough, but what about the other way around?
If boyfriends or husbands need help do you think girlfriends and wives should take care of them?

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