Do you feel violated when your special intrests are changed?

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One of my special interests is languages, and I absolutely HATE bad translations (including bleeping google translate), when ppl mangle the words to songs in languages I know, or totally change the meaning when they do an English language version. I'm also a weather nut, and when ppl write stupid, wrong, ill-informed stuff on You Tube on the tornado videos I feel compelled to correct them.

~Kate

You bet!!

YouTube changed their channel layout last summer. I got a meltdown and cried my heart out in tears when I learned that this was going to be permanent
I had spent months on the design for my channel and had to throw everything in the bin. I still have hard to accept the current channel layout...

If you dont understand the power of an special interest then you cant understand that changes of this kind really can freak an aspie out...

It's hard to say because my main special interests are unchangeable. If you change ballet, then it's no longer ballet, it's a different form of dance. If you change drawing, well, you can't really change drawing. Then there's Lady Gaga, who is a special interest because she's always changing, so that doesn't count.

No never felt that way. Kind of hard with my special interest. And never pissed really at a sequel if it doesnt have the main characters from the the first of the series considering the movie could just as easily be a direct to dvd movie like the two without a paddle movies.

This is a great thread topic.
And yes. I often feel as if my relationship with my special interest and my fusion with it is violated by another's wish to enter into that realm of mine.
I do like to share my interests - but on my own terms and in my own ways.

It was interesting to note this in my career as a a painter. Other artists would go on about how "necessary and vital" the exhibiting process was. And for me, it was very different. i loathed that whole realm and I also know my relationship with mmy painting was far less "product based" than "process based." This very much fits in with the rote process aspect of my AS rather than having to create something for others. I did it more for me and more out of a need to fuse with my special interest, than out of a need for connection with the world beyond my own autistic realm. The doing was the important thing for me....the pure sameness of the doing and the realm of purity I live in when I fuse with my interests. No human can match it. Not anyone. It is an interesting distinction to consider. When my work entered into the public domain more and more, it felt as if it was a bit of a travesty, and a "sullying' of the purity of the fusion of me with my interest, was occurring. I would feel so utterly and purely content in the studio with what I was doing, and then it would go to a gallery and the spell, that beautiful and intense place where we reside so wonderfully, was destroyed. I felt worried by it.

It is exactly the same with my new special interest. There is a whole private realm that exists within me which is specifically about me and my fusion with the new interest. No-one can fully comprehend it. It embodies me. It possesses me and I become it. Very purely.
No-one in my life quite understands this process, although I meet other ASD people who very much relate and identify as their experiences are parallel to mine in this regard. My special interests are my closest friends. More important than other people.

I wouldn't know because nobody has changed my special interests.

For me it's more about others appropriating my special interests in ways that are irritating to me. Take my avi. Discovering the pre-Raphaelites was a very special time for me, and it really was a hunt. I had to dig and hunt for any information or images I could find. (Ah, those days before the internet.) Then it seemed like all of a sudden it was everywhere, it was "cool." On bookmarks and mouse pads. Ick. I don't want to see the images on tissue boxes or whatever. Or this:

Lion King was my special intrest for years and is a major one even today. I was tramatised and felt as if I was raped when I saw the set design and costumes for The Lion King on Broadway. The whole thing looks like an acid trip. Not that I've ever tried LSD, but I have heard accounts of what it's like to be on it and the stageshow reminds me of those accounts. It reminds me of the work of Salvador Dali and surrilest artists, most of which were on LSD when they painted. I don't care what other so called Lion King "fans" think, the stageshow is a rape of the original film and Julie Taymore deserves to be hung and wacked upside the head with Scar's cane (which he did not have in the film). TLK should never have been made into a stageshow. I personaly don't consider it a part of the Lion King universe but about 95% of the special features on the DVD are about it. I wear Lion King T-shirts alot and I forget how many times I had to resist the urge to strangle the bastard who brought up the stageshow. I personaly saw the stageshow and it was even worse than I thought it would be. Chances are I won't be interacting with Broadway A-listers any day soon but if I ever encounter Julie Taymore you can garentee I will at least flip her off.

No, I don't seam to feel violated when my special interest changes, its the fact that I still be keeping to my special interest but it feels pretty annoying how I could just change from one interest to another to another, I wouldn't say I feel violated.

I wouldn't say its just you, some other people have even mentioned so your practically not alone.


- superboyian

Yes! I do, and I don't appreciate people telling me what I should like and how to live my life. My special interests are only limiting to people who fear things and people who are different. I just mind my own business and do my own thing. I have a very strong personality, and I've found my place in the NT world. If I'm just left alone to be, than I cause no trouble. If people start dictating to me what I should and should not like, I can be very rebellious, hence the username, CockneyRebel. The Cockney part comes from my special interests in all things to do with London and the Rebel part is what happens if I feel that those interests, or my personality are being violated. The Kinks are pretty harmless in today's cruel and dangerous world. Let me enjoy them.

Was advised to come here and share my special interest. I am not going to change it though.
I like going into long trances and staring at bathroom ceiling, ( it needs repainting due to excessive steam damage) I pay the bills for the hot water , and will eventually redecorate , hence as long as no one else needs the bathroom ,or me , I don't see why I shouldn't lie in the bath like this. TV is mostly boring.

How do you go into a trance and what do you see?
Space? Other rooms? I asked more in PM.
I hope you are not depressed.