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Great to meet you Michelle and Nostromo (was that the name of the space ship in first 'Alien' movie?)

Hello also to Sinsyokka and I hope that the forums in WP help you get the answers that you are looking for.

Yep your correct! However I took my profile name from the story by Joseph Conrad (I guess the ship was named after that too).

Thanks to all of our NT members for you responses and PMs.

I'd like to acknowledge that some of our fellow members who are NT may very well be suffering as a result of having loved ones who are on the Autism Spectrum.

It's also worth remembering that while many if not most on the Autism Spectrum are indifferent about whether or not we 'connect' with those around us, NTz are less likely to be indifferent; so it occurs to me that they are probably experiencing a type of pain that those of us on the Spectrum probably cannot fully understand or maybe even remotely comprehend.

I have an intellectual appreciation of this, from a simple knowledge of basic Neurology but I have no idea what this kind of pain must actually FEEL like.

For some of us, there is another side to our Autism; the NTz who love us.

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Blindspot149, thank you very much for the recognition...I have never heard anyone articulate this

I'd like to take this a step further: At first, I joined WP in an effort to better understand my son and possibly make a few friends in the process. Somewhere along the way, I gained a very profound appreciation for the number of people with ASD diagnoses and the types of challenges they face and overcome on a daily basis. Being a member of WP has been...transformative, and I feel grateful to be part of this community.

Dave,

Thank you for your kind words.

It is my honor to acknowledge my fellow members of WP who live with Autsim as NTz.

You are ALL heros and I salute you.

Hi NT here Or at least borderline NT I have ADHD, so I am not sure If I am fully NT, but I am not aspie...Maybe I don't know who i am

Anyways post or PM me anytime I have been with a un DX aspie (but I would bet the farm on it) for 10 years married for 5 so I bet I could offer so input where needed.

and i probably will have some questions in exchange as I find it easier to approach my husband on tough issues if i have an understanding before i do...help me maintain my foucus and composure when he does not allways

Hello marriedsinglemomma,

I love your username. Sometimes I think that my AS means that my wife and I are room mates with kids, although I love her dearly.

There is a scene in the movie 'Unbreakable' where David Dunn's (Bruce Willis' character) wife asks him if he intentionally keeps her and their son at a distance. He answer 'no' almost as though he was being asked if he wanted meatloaf for dinner

That's where I am sometimes, just disconnected and it must feel truly horrible for my wife and children.

I'm arranging for my professional diagnosis soon and will be getting some guidance (I'm open to medication too) to improve the quality of all of our lives.

I 'function' quite well, with my own successful business and the ability to articulate quite well, when I want to/need to.

There is a great book written by an NT wife of a gifted AS man that you might find helpful.

Alone Together; Making an Asperger marriage work; by Katrin Bentley. She is a real fighter and survivor and I really admire her strength and love for her husband.

I cried through some of it and read in stunned silence through the rest of it.

Thanks to everyone for sharing here. It is really nice to meet you.

It's also such a change to have NTz actually taking an interest in ME

I'm NT, and have an AS son and a probably AS husband. I absolutely love this website and the people on it. I don't know what I would do without the insight I have gained from talking to people who actually LIVE with AS and who are willing to share their feelings and experiences. You all are a very special and wonderful group of people. The connection to this world has made me a better person, has made my child's life happier, and my marriage has benefited greatly. I would be honored to have any opportunity to return the favor.

PM me if you would like, anytime!

I didn't realise there were many NTz on this site until recently and it's great to meet you all.

It's good of you to feature Autism and us, on your Facebook during April.

I don't have Facebook, myspace or even linkdin, so WP serves as my social networking.

I'm glad you are benefiting from being here, that's really great to hear.

I love the mention of Roommates with Kids. I had never had a room mate until i married After the kids were born I basically moved to the bed in the nursery. It sounds weird to those in an NT/NT relationship but we find it works for us. An Unrested aspie is of no use to me during this stage of parenting...I say this in jest as I need my husband fully rested to deal with work and family life...if he is overly stressed we get meltdown and his sensory issues get out of hand. we of course make time for each other, but during this stage we have found an agreement to keep everyone at their best

I just finished the Alone Together book yesterday...I read it cover to cover and had lots of AH HA and yep yep moments. Alot of weight was lifted after reading the book. And the next day we had a powerstruggle but I had better tools we weathered the storm quite nicley!

I exspecially found the chapter that discussed the fact that her husband was a rigid and literal thinker and how there was only one way to do things...this is so true in our house. And how even the smallest outing such as baseball turned into a critiqueing (sp?) nightmare for the family. That is my life...but now with more understanding.

I am not pushing the hubs to get a DX unless he wants it. I am convinved allthough for the kids it would be nice to know, but it is his call. I was talking to the pediatrictian today as the boys didn't pass the 18-24 autisim screening so I mentioned that We suspect Hubs as being Aspie...he seamed quite convinced as well based on my description of life as we know it.

I am just glad all us NTs are welcome here. I would have gone into phycology had I been better at school...I have allways been intrigued and facinated by the mind.

I am an NT. I generally come here to get a better insight into my girlfriend's AS son so I can better relate to him.

Jimbeaux, I've really appreciated your contributions...thanks