How does everybody here handle change?

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I really hate changes. I can't really deally with them without freaking out about it.

I don't like change - even a small change in variables will give me a big error message in my head and everything grinds to a halt. I have to rethink my plan of action to accomodate the change (even it it's a positive change, it can take me a few days to make peace with it), but then once I'm used to the new thing or idea, I'll be upset if things go back to the way they were before.

It depends on the situation. Mostly, I can handle change because for me, change is good once in awhile. It's the last minute changes that I don't like. I expect one thing, but then something else takes the place of the one thing that I was expecting. Also, when I go on a trip like for vacation, I like to know what we are doing, minor changes on a trip are okay, but as long as we plan on doing everything that was already planned on the schedule, I'm okay. But if one thing that was on the schedule is changed, then I don't like it. I get upset and angry, but then I get over it, depressed that I am.

in theory i think change can be good, but in practice it does seem to affect me badly. even very minor things like my girlfriend being up before me in the morning (i usually always get up at least an hour before her). it causes feelings i find very hard to describe. i also like to know a while in advance if i'm expected to do anything outside of my normal routine.

I'm usually okay with change as long as I like it, although I'll feel a bit weird usually until I get used to it. Thankfully, the moment I see something new I become fascinated by it and just spend loads of time staring at it and checking it out, so dealing with change in that way helps stop me getting stressed by it.

Having said that, there are certain things that drive me insane if they change. For example, yesterday I got to play my drumkit for the first time in a while, but when I got there the setup had been switched around to right-handed style, and Dad had left all his guitars and jack leads in the way, so I couldn't get it set up the way I was used to (the fact that the bass drum was up against a wall didn't help much). After a few minutes of shifting the drums around and trying to play them (and getting increasingly frustrated in the process, with my playing getting progressively louder and faster as a result), I eventually stormed off in the worst possible mood and refused to speak to anyone for the next couple of hours. So yeah, certain changes aren't great for me, particularly if they involve my drumkit.

Change?
You mean like:
Leaving your job to study and then finding out the course is too hard and so have to quit that,
having to sell your place because you can't afford it anymore,
moving in with your parents because you have nowhere else to live,
getting diagnosed with HFA,
having to go on the disability pension,
going to hospital for three months with depression,
travelling to the other side of the country to live with your boyfriend's family for two months,
having to sell your car because you can't afford it anymore,
then not knowing what will happen when you move back home after the holiday.
Now I know why I'm a bit of a stress-head. :roll:

I hate change.

When something disturbes my regular routine I instantly become self-unrecogniseable and I begin trying to re-live my past routine.

For me, the worst ever change was when I left my old job and began working in a different place with different work roles and procedures, I was instantly unfamilar and disliked the procedures and staff.

I don't handle change. I find it very stressful and hard to cope with. Even if it's a change for the better it takes me a while to adjust. Sometimes it's blatantly obvious that I'm struggling but quite a bit of the time no one realises that I'm having so much trouble with the change.. even I don't realise until I run straight into a brick wall and fall flat on my face to realise that I'm not coping.

I find big changes a bit difficult but then I love a good challenge, I thrive on them, hence I feel my life has been somewhat tedious at the moment as I haven't been challenged and I have to live through the same monotonous s**t every day. But I feel that will all change soon.

Hate change...especially when a lot happens at once. But little changes really annoy me and bother me. Even though I can tell some little thing in my mind is trying to tell me it's not a big deal, there's something in me that is so much stronger that just...I can feel it in the pit of my stomach and it drives me insane.

If I know the change is coming it isn't as bad. But if I am looking forward to something and something happens to put a kink in things is when I have a problem with it. it is like everything in my head stopps and I am only focused on the thing not happening.
Then because I am so stressed about thast thing other things start to unravel and then the whole of everything becomes messed up.

If I initiate the change it isn't so bad.

For me the deciding factor is whether or not it was my idea to make the change. It doesn't matter whether it's a change in routine or a physical change such as rearranging the furniture. I think what it boils down to is that I don't like surprises.

I suppose it depends on the change, and I suppose it depends on how sudden and unexpected the change is.

But my attitude to change - is that there is always going to be change, and that has to be accepted.

I used to dislike change but years ago I reworked my mind around scientific theory and once I began to learn the basic laws of the universe, I became much more comfortable with the entire universe. Everywhere is my home. Not that change isn't hard (it is for everyone) but I always have confidence that, using what I know about the universe, I can always derive or empirically observe how this smaller section of the universe operates. But then again, I'm pretty hardcore into science and computers.