Rage ??

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psych....So if someone either damaged either you own property or kicked your head in you would rather shake there hand as opposed to getting justice?

No, i find not having any hate and "being the bigger person" is tried and failed. Hate has a lot of uses, and is a good driving force unlike being some sort of pacifist were you will just be made to be everyones b***h.

If someone is violent and dangerous then they need to be taken care of, IDEALLY in a pragmatic and detached way.
There is no 'justice' in nature, if you mean justice in the legal sense then sure, go for it.

eg. Uniting a troubled community to drive the 'neds' out of a troubled estate is a job well done (tried and tested too by the IWCA & afaik without a hint of violence). All the broken bones and smashed windows in the world IMO will not bring anyone happiness.

See above. A 'good driving force' would quite simply be a will to change the current situation.

Yes, I experience rage as a result of continuous sexual frustration. It tends to become focused on those I consider to be my competition (i.e., other guys, particularly guys who are good at getting women); I believe that, if there were fewer guys in proportion to women, my chances of succeeding would be much higher. I just wait it out and hold back any undue impulses to the best of my ability.

In terms of other things, the things that bug other people tend not to bug me very much at all. I am extremely disgusted, though, when people spit on the sidewalk or don't flush the toilet. I don't know what it is about guys' dorms and people not flushing.

Also, I dislike the military (ever since the invasion and occupation of Iraq) and am very much bothered by the sight of anyone in military uniform.

First off, for me, "rage" and "anger" are two different things.

Anger is what i feel when i get cut off driving. It's a moment's frustration, a bit of "grrrr"-ing and it's done and over. my life goes back to "normal" and i'm happy. i don't gossip about people when i get angry, and i don't tell people to do nasty things to farm animals either when i'm angry. i'm pretty mellow actually.

Ok, to be honest, if i were any more mellow, i'd be dead.

This being said, rages suck, and my rages are in direct relation to how "icki" my body is feeling at a particular time. i rage when my sensory issues become too much, and i'm overstimulated (not even severely).

In a matter of moments i can go from mellow to yelling and screaming and throwing things. my rages can get so bad that i'm medicated, and STILL it has only helped about half the time. They're so bad that i have to be on a celiac diet because gluten sets me off. i don't like raging, it doesn't feel good physically.

So i do the best i can at being aware of what i'm eating, and being aware of how my body feels because i can feel them coming on... sort of like a calm before the storm kind of premonition (sp?). And when i do feel them coming on, i try to get away from people and put weight on my body.

When this happens, my partner likes to tell me to "go reboot". And indeed, it seems very similar.

When I let my anger come where I can't handle it turns into fits of rage which find my self attacking all the things that I can find. When I'm enraged I want to do nothing but run while striking things that are in my way.

Bike, bike, bike, masturbate, and bike.

BIKE BIKE BIKE BIKE BIKE!! !

I'm guessing by the use of Bike you mind something that shouldn't really be discussed or a two wheeled transportion called a bike?

The second one.

Oh okay. Thanks for summing that up I was getting really nervous there for a second.

I blog like mad to deal with my frustrations. I think I probably seem like kind of an as*hole on my blog because so many of my entries are just really frustrated. Though, I practically never have violent urges--never want to destroy anything, just want things to shut up or make sense or have some kind of forseeable way to become better, that sort of thing. Heh.

Wow, sounds very familiar, with me, sometimes it's a specific person, such as my kid's principal, a situation, like shearing a bolt while working on my Jeep, or things others may call trivial, it almost always ends in me breaking something, usually something I really like, and I can't seem to control it until I hear the satisfying sound of something breaking, sometimes my own hand as I smash it into something really solid. I've bought punching bags, but they don't last very long, I hit them so hard the straps rip off of them. Sometimes I can get away from the situation and cool off, sometimes I have just enough clarity of mind to break something of little value(I bought a bag of second hand golf clubs for this purpose) but sometimes I really lose it and get into a fight, or beat up my car.

Some say walk away, but sometimes it isn't that easy, sometimes there just isn't enough time to react rationally. All a guy can do is try to avoid letting things get to the point that you blow up, and work on redirecting the anger into something productive.

Why has nobody pointed out yet that research has been done on rage catharsis and actually bottling your anger up relieved anger better than venting it does??????

Not all emotions should be bottled up but actually acting angry makes you more, not less, angry, than if your gritted your teeth and just sat with it.

Plus, you "train" yourself to be angry when you act it out.

I'm not sure some of this has to do with anything psychologically some of it is just physical- I have alot of sensory issues and one thing I learned to do is to try and notice beforehand or make note of when I need to take a break before things effect me like that. I used to feel guilty like I was being weak or something for knowing my limitiations or as I have been called before like a hot house tomato. And just accepting that I need to do that has changed things quite a bit. If my husband wants to drum than I'm going for a drive because it annoys me (lol). Before I would just sit there and try and ignore it (mission impossible) and then I would be in a bad mood and on edge. Doesn't work perfectly of course but it has helped. Of course maybe that would be considered sensory overloads and not rage?