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19 Mar 2010, 8:05 pm

Only 27,5 cm :D


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19 Mar 2010, 8:24 pm

Never could act my age, never will.


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19 Mar 2010, 8:44 pm

tweety_fan wrote:
was anyone here ever told to "act your age, not your shoe size"? I was.
This bugged me because at times my age and my shoe size were the same number (like at 6 I wore size 6(kid's size) shoes)
and the meaning of "act your age" I didn't understand, I still don't get it.

I never heard of that one. Maybe I'll start acting like a 9 year old. But I'm a 9 in ladies and a 7 or 8 in mens.


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20 Mar 2010, 5:08 am

This thread reminds me of a cartoon I have somewhere. It's of a boy talking to his dog, and the caption is
"Mum told me to act my age. When I did, she told me to grow up!"

I was always confused by being told to "act my age". When I asked for clarification "How is someone my age meant to act?", I got called "a smartarse" and worse.


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23 Mar 2010, 11:14 am

Nice to see I'm not the only one -_-

Anyway, on a side note: I have a theory, that teenagers act the most grown-up of all.
There's a time when you watch cartoons and all that stuff cause you're a kid. Then you're a teenager and both you and your piers want you to act as un-childish as possible, so you shun any reminder of your childhood like crazy. Then you grow up and you might start watching old kids movies or the like again, this time for the sake of "fond memories", or whatever.

I remember when I was a teenager, I asked a friend if she read Harry Potter, and she looked at me weirdly and said "No!" as if saying "Why would I be so silly to do something so childish?". But once I got to high school, a few years later, my piers all read Harry Potter with joy, and I think you would have been considered weird if you'd babbled something about it being childish.
There was a time when I was like 16 and I played on my gameboy during school breaks. This was "weird" and "childish" behavior. But you know, I suspect that if I were to do this again now, in university, at the age of 23, no one would consider me to be childish for it, they'd be perfectly cool with it.

So, it's like there's an age where you're old enough to be childish. (or is it only that, the higher the education, the more childish someone is?) At any rate, I'll be using this argument in the future.



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23 Mar 2010, 12:02 pm

Janissy wrote:
CockneyRebel wrote:
I hated that, growing up. It would have helped if my parents told me how I was to act for the following year, with each birthday that I had. Parents are probably reading this, right now, and they're going to learn a great deal, from this thread.


Oh yes. My daughter called me out on this. I said (like every parent ever) "don't act like a 2 year old". So she asked, "What does a 2 year old do???" That forced me to explain, "a 2 year old whines instead of saying 'may I have that please?'". After seceral more times of that happening (I'm a slow learner) I realized I should stop saying, "don't act like a 2 year old (or whatever age)" and instead should just tell her point blank what she should be doing differently.

My own parents had a great idea that I completely forgot about until this thread. At every birthday they would give announce one new privilege and add one new chore. For instance, " Happy Birthday. Now you may stay up until 9PM and you also are responsible packing your own school lunch." It was a great idea, now that I remember it, I should adopt it.


Smart parents. That is an excellent idea. It teaches kids by experience how they have both rights and responsibility, and gives them self sufficiency at a steady rate. If I decide I want kids, I'll use that.


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23 Mar 2010, 1:06 pm

I never grew up, cood not "conform",
threw tantrums when terrorised,
it didnt "teach me", kept throwing
tantrums got suspended then kicked
out of "regular" school and put in spesh ed
and got along better.


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26 Mar 2010, 5:21 am

League_Girl wrote:
When I was a kid my mom used to get mad at me for how I act because I wasn't acting my age. I didn't even know how to act my age and how I should be acting. I wouldn't even know when I wasn't acting my age and my mom say I was crying like a two year old. But when you have a birthday, you are not told the new rules you have and what is expected out of you. You are supposed to know on your own. I remember how confusing life was when I was a kid because it seemed like everyone had different rules and I didn't know what was right or not because rules are different for little kids vs older kids. Like it might be okay for a two year old to do something and the punishment isn't real big but if a six year old did it, the punishment is a lot stronger because the kid should know better. But when stuff like that happen to me, I would be confused and I thought I was being treated different and I would find it all unfair and be mad about it. For me to know something is wrong to do, that kid had to be punished for it. If he or she wasn't, I thought it was okay to do so it was as if little kids were a bad influence on me. Then when I was ten I quit copying everyone and started copying kids my own age or older to stay out of trouble but that didn't fully work because I still get in trouble because kids didn't always follow the rules.

When school starts, the teacher tells all her students the rules and what she expects out of them. Same thing when you get a job, you are handed the handbook and it tells you the rules and what is expected out of you. You don't get that when you have a birthday. You are expected to know on your own how to act and behave.


That sounds very familiar to me. It is indeed a guessing game.



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26 Mar 2010, 5:37 am

My mother has always gotten mad at me on how I've acted. She has said and still says sometimes for me to stopping acting like I'm five. I wish that both parents would tell me what they expected from my behaviour as it would perhaps have avoided the usual mentions of ''you are embarrassing me'' and ''stop acting like you are five/two'' (it varies).

I used to get punished, now she just tells me that I'm embarrassing but what does she expect? How am I supposed to act my age when I don't know how?

Yet I'll never belong to my peer group nor can I belong to when life was simpiler. It's enough to feel lost.



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26 Mar 2010, 10:14 am

So, anyway..instead of being depressed about it, how about we compile a list for the Aspies after us, about how to act at which age?
I mean, when you're older you usually understand what mom was upset about 5 years ago or so, right? Even if you didn't get it at the time.
So, anyone up for making a list together?



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25 Jul 2010, 8:17 am

What annoys me is - when I was 15, my 12 year old cousin once came over and wanted to go off and build a den in the woods by a river. So I asked my Mum if we could, and she said, ''wouldn't you feel embarrassed?'' so I sighed and said, ''all right - we won't then. Why do I have to be too old for everything?''

But now (I'm 20) I see 16 year olds flying around on scooters. It seems ''OK'' now. My Mum just looked at them and said, ''they're nice scooters'' - but if I was 16, she would have said, ''you're too old for scooters. You'll look silly.''

Why wasn't I allowed to be a kid when I was a younger teen, but now younger teens are allowed to be kids?



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25 Jul 2010, 2:54 pm

I have been alive for 41 years, I still don't get
What Law in the us or Any Country for that matter
says that I am "too big" to do this or too big for that,
I just don't see it, what is so wrong about going outside
on my own property and colouring with my chalk on our
own part of the pavement? There is no rule against it
it isn't defacing, no city ordanince or anything.

Same with playing on the swings, back in California, Officer Chris
just waves says "Hi Tigger" and goes on so he's nice, regular non police
tried to act like they owned me, saying
bossing me around stuff like "Your too big to be playing
on swings" and I would say "Ok how about I play in the street?"
they shaked their heads and walked off, or they'd
say "Why don't you have a girlfrend?" and I'd say
because she does not exist or there isn't anyone out
there for me they'd say "go get her" and I'd grab into
the air and when she did not appear I said "Ok guess she
cant make it to the party" and go back swinging and
they do the head shakey walk off thing, hehehehe. Got rid of them.


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30 Mar 2011, 3:58 pm

Bit off topic, maybe.

I hate the word Acting. Or Act.

Shouldn't you be Behaving your own Age.

Behaving and Act are two different things.