I do that too. And yet, I have this AS friend (actually, I barely consider him a friend now) who did the same thing "to" me ("to" is in quotes because without them I think it makes me sound like I've been victimized by some terrible wrong-doing, which is really not the case, it's just something that happened between us but it's easier/flows better to say "to"), and yet I've been really upset by it. Sometimes when I think about it, I am straight-up angry and upset and confused with him (in my mind), even though I of all people should be really understanding of the situation. I know it's not really his fault (at least, I really hope that this hasn't happened because he realized that I'm actually boring and weird and annoying or something), so I shouldn't really be angry AT him, but the overall situation just really upsets me because I thought we would end up being very very close (which is very very exciting and rare for me), but that never happened. It's more upsetting in that he just isn't (or, doesn't appear to be) as excited about me as I am about him, doesn't want to talk to me or hang out with me even 1/4 of the amount that I want to, and there's nothing I can do about that, even though he used to be so very excited about me. And I would talk to him about all of this, except, it's been so hard to even get that chance for a while now. I've almost completely given up, which I really, really hate doing.
And then I wonder if I've ever unintentionally and unknowingly (unknowing because for whatever reason they didn't tell me they were upset) caused someone else such distress
I also wonder if my backing off in response to his changes has somehow made him sad/upset/confused/frustrated, etc.
Can anyone else relate...?
I can relate a lot.
About this internet friend of mine. I don't think we're friends anymore.