Verbose Speech!

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I'm both verbose and taciturn by turns (say that three times fast). Actually more inclined to blather on endlessly here than in person, but push a special interest button and we're off!

As for tangential - how can you tell anyone about anything without explaining how it came to be that way and how those things were influenced by other things and showing all the circles and arrows and the paragraph on the back of each one explaining what each one is...

Me verbose? Er, yeah, I'd say that's a characteristic I manifest routinely. Tangenital....I guess I am often guilty of that too (although to me it is more like explaining context). I might add here that I am often repetitious and tend to repeat myself or my earlier points as well.

That's me! Been trying to get it under control for most of my adult life. Working hard on the tangential speech these days...not adding unnecessary details (they seem necessary to me, but apparently not to most others) and staying on topic. My therapist says that's one of my biggest problems...my mind skips off on tangents so that my answer to a given question or conversational reply seems to have nothing to do with what the other person is saying. She says she's used to it by now but that it's jarring initially, and that it can be confusing for anyone outside my head to follow my train of thought. I don't blame them!

I'm verbose when it comes to certain topics but other than that I'm quiet. And I can never figure out how to change the conversation around to be about one of my topics without being awkward and weird. So most of the time I'm quiet, until I get the chance and then people wonder where it all came from.

Gosh yes........it matters little whether anyone is listening to me or not. I try to be very mindful of it.

My family is better at being kinder in their "intervention" and my friends know when I am tired it is worse.

And then there are times where I say very little. It depends on how interesting it is.

Take care,

Mics

I can go on and on sometimes, but I know a couple of people who never.stop.talking and after a while with either one of them I just want to cry. I try to explain there's only so much I can process. The difference between these two people and your typical Aspergian is they talk about absolutely nothing. I'm serious. Complete drivel. I'm expected to pay attention too.

Guilty as charged!
I can talk endlessly about ancient history, till everyone else is blue in the face! Back when i was a lot younger, and my friends were much less understanding than they are now, they were constantly telling me, "Shut up Bill, take a chill pill Bill." I suppose I have learned to "reel" it in, when it comes to subjects only I care about.

-Bill, otherwise known as Kraichgauer

I'm horrible. I go on and on when I write. I try to eliminate stuff but it's very hard to edit. It all seems pertinent somehow. I don't know how people communicate in a sentence or two but that is how most people do. I wish I could meet someone that really likes to read that I could write letters to. I love to read so they could write me long letters back. I am much better in person because I don't feel comfortable talking about the things I do when I write.

Sounds like an invitation Alana!

I'm getting better, if you can call it that. My natural tendency is to analyse everything and to provide the listener with everything I know about whatever subject has come up, but I've begun to correct my style, especially with people I don't know well.

Trouble is, once you take away my verbose monologues, there isn't very much of me left.

From what I've been told and read, this is very normal AS behavior.

I know that I have a tendency to ramble on and on about whatever's currently the most exciting thing ever to me, and I often tell multiple people about it again and again because I still want to talk about it (and also because I forget who I've told...). The tangent thing is definitely something I do, because I get so involved in explaining back story that I'll often start explaining some element of back story and spend far too long getting all the context in that I'll forget to get back to my original point...

I've been told I'm very verbose and eloquent in my writing style. However, when I speak, I often get nervous and stumble on words, and would seem to other people very far from verbose. If I've gotten to know someone well, I will be somewhat more eloquent and verbose when I socialize with them, but if it's with people I don't know well, I will stumble, pause, and my mind will often go blank trying to think of the right words. I guess I just have a somewhat bad case of social phobia. When I'm relaxed with someone, I can be slighty more verbose, but not by much.

My therapist, however, seems to think I'm quite eloquent when I speak about a subject I'm interested in. Maybe she's right to an extent. But I just often get too nervous when I'm speaking with people, so my eloquence doesn't come across very well. I'm often tongue tied in social situations, although if a subject comes up that I'm interested in, it won't be as bad. I'm just not very representative of the stereotypical "little professor" of Aspies, because I get nervous.

lol, I just meant I wish I could find someone like me, I think most people go cross-eyed from boredom.

I never shut up LOL!