Who worries about weight, calories, etc.

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While it's almost usual for young women to be somewhat concerned with their weight, your girlfriend has a weight issue. I would say that she probably is an anorexic, from what little I understand issue of this she'll probably need serious help (by professionals as well as those who care for her).

Do her family know how little she eats?

I've been obsessed about my weight since my teens and then started to eat less at 18. I don't like it. I should follow my own advice. I am considered to be underweight but I don't seem underweight so I guess I am meant to be fat.

I do worry. I mean, I'm not fat or anything. But I do hate my stomach pudge. XD I don't count calories too much though, because I like food too much. XD

I went into treatment for anorexia when I was 23. It didn't start out with me caring what my weight was, it started out as kind of a control thing but eventually weight entered into it. I've gained weight because of the medication I'm on and I'm not happy with where I'm at, but I'm not about to start starving myself again. Even if my brain tries to tell me I was happy at 90 pounds, I know I was miserable. It's funny, but since finding out about AS the desire to be super thin has faded away. I guess it has something to do with self acceptance for me.

Something Fishy has a good page about what you can do for a friend with an eating disorder.
http://www.something-fishy.org/helping/whatyoucando.php

Don't make it about the food. The food is just a symptom of something emotional. There's not much you can do as an outsider, even if the person is forced into treatment they have to make the decision to get better themselves. Being there to listen is the best thing you can do, I think.

Sorry your friend is going through this. The Something Fishy page is a good place to start, with info about what not to say, too. Also, "approaching someone you care about". http://www.something-fishy.org/helping/yourapproach.php And there's a support community for friends and family, too. http://www.something-fishy.org/online/familyfriends.php

You might be right about the BDD, she practically has all the symptoms, I've read it earlier under wikipedia, it describes it pretty well, she obviously see's herself pretty big, she has dealt with anorexia which she might end up going through that stage again (hopefully not).
She did a couple of times forced herself to vomit and she afterwards claims she compulsive eat, so it could possibly be that.

She was going to get diagnosed but her mum didn't want her to because of the amount of pressure it would be for her mum and she just wouldn't be able to imagine it plus she is pretty sensitive.

Getting her distracted does kind of work but after a while, she starts worrying, worse when its lunch/dinner.
Thank goodness today wasn't so bad but yesterday she was literally counting all the calories.

I hope that your girlfriend gets the help that she needs.

I don't worry about it at all. I've never been girlie and have never been interested in my appearance. I don't even own any make up. I think I look fine, though. I'm not particularly fat, I'm about average.

I'm sorry I have no real advice for your girlfriend. I think getting therapy would help her, but if her mother is against it I'm not sure what you can do, other than being a supportive friend, which you are doing already.

Not at all! In fact, my parents told me to go to Harvey's (a fastfood restaurant) less because I really liked the place and always went there with my friend (and by myself). However, despite eating burgers and fries on a regular basis last term, I don't think I gained any weight. I think I hold a certain genetics where its so hard for me to get fat.

I worry, but mostly because I really need to get back down to 185, and I'm struggling to keep from going over 205.

I don't worry about calories and stuff and diet food really rubs me the wrong way. I just eat healthy foods and exercise. Healthy is way better than skinny, to me.

i struggled with an eating disorder for a few years off and on, but it was almost more like one of my short-term 'special interests' -- so usually it would go away.

in the middle fo it, though, i can be insane about numbers --- calories, pounds, measurements, etc.

right now i'm trying to lose weight but i am doing it in a way that avoids calorie counting. no need to accidentally trigger that mess again.

It's common for anorexics to see themselves bigger than they really are. They may mistake their loose skin as fat not realizing it's normal. They pinch it and they think it's fat than skin. I don't know if it should been seen as body dysmorphic.
Heck I don't think it's uncommon for them to try and make themselves look like models. I think there is the pressure out there for us to be thin because you see all these diet ads and pills and hot bodies in magazines it makes girls wants to have a perfect body. But you know what, I've read they use computers to cover up things like scars and pimples stretchmarks, to make their bodies look perfect and they can shape them anyway they want.

I used to count calories and worry about how much I was putting in my body. But now I don't worry about it anymore. I have eaten lot of candy for Easter and Halloween and didn't gain weight and it was over 3,000 calories I bet I put in my body. I never counted. I can go to fast food and order what I want and not worry about how much calories it is. I won't gain weight over night from all that. Besides I don't eat there often. If I was going there few times a week, then I'd worry.

I just try and stay away from lot of sweets and junk food. I try and have them sometimes.

Yes, I used to when I was younger. I was never diagnosed with an eating disorder, but I'm telling you guys, if what I went through wasn't bad enough to be considered an eating disorder, I'd hate to know what real bulimics have to live with.

I study nutrition and avoid fried foods as much as possible. I try to eat a lot of vegetables and I skip soft drinks for unsweetened iced tea.

Nutrition and weight loss was one of my "obsessions" for quite a while. I never lost my period because I was on birth control pills, so I wasn't diagnosable with anorexia, but I fit all of the other criteria (one of the points for diagnosis is halting of menstrual cycles for at least 3 months).

I'm no where near as bad anymore, but I still obsess about my weight quite a bit. I've moved to nutrition and health instead haha.