Hugging addiction

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i very much resist people hugging me.
i let them hug me for about 3 seconds.
i do not hug them back and i leave my hands by my side.
if they do not stop hugging me after 3 seconds i will push them away.

I love hugs, but I can't stand being touched by anyone but my mom (even then, only through clothes) so I usually have to go without. Like right now . My mom is SO tired of hugs, she hates them now.

I did a complete 180 degree spin on hugging. When I was a kid I found hugs as uncomfortable as eye contact with most folks but then in my early 20's something changed and I went into hug mode for awhile but still didn't like clingy cuddling. It wasn't really a problem though because most of the people I was hanging out with with could be described as kinda neo-hippies and punk kids and would always happily hug on request and frequently request them. Now I still enjoy hugs when I get them but don't feel such a compelling need for them.

I'm not entirely sure your feeling of 'addiction' is being caused by a psychological issue (ie, something a therapist would target). That may be why you are not making any progress with her.

Almost all folks on the spectrum have significant neurological differences in sensory processing (often called SPD or sensory processing disorder). Almost all children on the spectrum for example, will either have a very strong need for, or conversely an aversion to, heavy physical input like very tight hugs, joint compressions, firm back rubs etc. That's because this represents one of the SEVEN senses, which include vestibular (balance) and proprioception (an awareness of your body in relation to the space around you - which a firm squeeze will satisfy).

If you are feeling a physical need (which would mimic an 'addiction') for hugs, it could just be your body telling you that it needs proprioceptive input. That's what that contraption of a squished mattress was built for, and there are other products out there. But you may want to consider making an appointment with an Occupational Therapist rather than a psychological one, because an OT can give you - and teach you how to get - the proprioceptive input your body may just naturally be craving.

I don't think I ever had a hugging addiction. I mean me and my friends hug a lot when we greet/leave each other but that's about it. Aside from that the only other people I've hugged have been from my favourite band, and at that stage I was so overwhelmed I didn't even think about it (usually I hate strangers touching me). But I can understand how it could get addicitve. I mean it feels really comforting and all.

I love deep pressure but Im not really into hugging....sometimes I dont even like hugging my husband. I have to be in the mood for it. My little kids are more likely to climb all over me than hug me and I like that better if Im not in too much pain from my stupid back and hip. My kids are not what you would call sedentary . My 7 year old Aspie likes to touch people and put his arm around other kids....Im more the opposite. I dont like strangers touching me at all and I especially dont like people touching my face. There are times when I endure it for awhile for my son but sometimes I just explain to him that I dont want to be touched there and he is happy to hold onto my arm.

Having a hugging addiction? I would recommend getting a cuddle pillow in order to satisfy your cravings for warm embraces.

Hi all
I've broken up with my girlfriend 4 months ago and i had to changed my country for my work issues. Suddenly i felt withdrawn for hugging. I felt enormously anxiety and had depression. I turned back to her to be a couple again but she didn't accept. I really didn't like her and i was looking forward to see days without her but now she comes like a God to me. My brain says it's nonsense but i can't control it. Everytime i'm thinking about her hands and hugs at night. These days an idea occured in my brain; to buy a tiny tent for my room. It can not be a coincidence. Because when i started to think about my past, i now realise that i have something like hug addiction. When i find someone new that i like, this will be over i guess. I wanted to share this with you. If i had Temple Grandin's hug machine, i could pass on my days easier i guess. By the way i don't have any diagnose for autism or Asperger etc. What do you say about that?

Personally, I don't see that as an addiction. Everyone wants to be touched.