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Maybe you're right. I don't always know what my motivation is. I just know I like to have confirmation that people read and understand what I have to say. Of course I don't usually give other people confirmation that I understand what they have to say so I'm a bit of a hypocrite.

I also criticize myself first so that other people won't criticize me because I don't take criticism well. Like I just did.

Wow, i do the same thing! I keep going back to the old topic and other people are like "uhhh, Casey, we moved past that topic a while back...." But i feel like i have special information or a special perspective on it that needs to be shared with everyone. With certain topics i sometimes even feel kind of posessive... Like if someone else starts giving information about it, i'm thinking "hey, that's MINE." lol.

I can only seem to talk about my cat. I talk to everyone about her. If it's not about my cat or the cats at work, I don't have anything to contribute.

I do this for certain topics, if it's something really important to me that I think would be helpful for someone. Maybe it's my ADHD, maybe it's just my personality. It's especially difficult if someone'scome to me with a problem and I know I have a good answer but they don't listen to it. I wish they'd keep their problem to themselves if they don't want an answer.

I caught doing that tonight with a friend about neurodiversity. I wanted to say three or four things but we got interupted and I couldn't get him back to it. I decided to just send him an email later.

I only talk about special intrests and don't really care what others think.

It sort of a compulsion really. I do try to stop myself but the more I prevent speaking about my topic of interest the more it spews out or I just shut down completely. This is one of the reasons that I have a hard time socially. This is why I dont like talking to people who do not really know me. I have a hard time listening sometimes although I am better than when I was a child. Also when someone cuts me off and starts changing the subject I will sometimes try to go along with it but then I always end up turning the conversation around and going back to what I was talking about. I am also really bad with interrupting people because if I dont I will forget what I was going to say....its as if I cant breathe if I dont say it. I am well aware that I annoy people but its hard to control. I think at this point in my life changing might be next to impossible.
I do seem to be able to have nice back and forth conversations with my husband (Im usually interested in what he is talking about) and my two close friends (although my one friend I do tend to annoy but she knows how to talk to me without upsetting me). Im also good with my younger kids....I annoy my older kids with my on and on topics of conversation.

I have very limited topics of conversations.

I do that too, at least for some subjects. Now I have more difficulty to keep conversation a conversat6ion mood.


May have be more to do with high intelliegence that asperger, maybe.


I can relate to that

I can totally relate to this. I do the exact same thing, and sometimes it's taxing to keep that bullet point list entirely up in my head. I feel like I'm a tape deck that just keeps rewinding until the tape finished playing out.



I don't stop talking entirely, but I have learned to tone it down a bit when it gets to my special interests, although sometimes I forget. I'm not at the point where I'm only interested in my special interests, but if nothing that I'm even remotely interested in intersects with what the person in question wants to talk about, I'm probably not going to be talking much.



For me, it depends on who I'm around. I also have no interest in sports or gambling...and if I still drank alcohol, then I might be interested in beer, but more about the finer points (i.e. how it's made, good imported or microbrews, etc).

If someone has a broad range of interests and is halfway intelligent, then I have no problem. With women, I have trouble making conversation sometimes...if I come across a geek/intelletual/nerd/maybe another Aspie, then no problem, or even a tomboy might be fine. I don't do well with girly-girls...it's as if I'm from another planet.



I do this too. I keep wondering if the person in question is really listening to me, or did they just want to hear me talk...which is annoying, because I prefer not to talk unless I have something to say.

A side note: my fiance has gotten used to my visiting the same topics frequently. I asked him about this a while back, to which he replied: "I just consider you a wealth of information".