have you ever run into one of your old bullies?

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Ran into one tonight.

They're just dumb and f*****g ret*d and never really grow up (they actually grow up a bit try to be nice bujt it's just in their nature to be a dick).
They're scum but they're still people, instead of ignoring it like back in the school days I just give them a "I will kill you stare" after the smart arse comments they usually make, or when they emphasise a situation regarding something socially mildly odd about me, they usually get the picture and back off after they realise I'm serious.

People won't take you seriously if you just ignore them which is the moral crap they taught in school.
People always test other people, it has nothing to do with autism, but people draw a line whereas autistics don't make a fuss and cop the abuse.
I incredibly regret the fact that I wasn't more aggressive in school, the anger and aggression was there but I held back due to strong moral factors.

If there was any advice I'd give to parents of an autistic child having a hard time it would be to teach your kid to stand up for himself. If a bully even pushes you or punches you or some provoking crap, you have to retaliate (unless you surely can't win) and punch him (within reason) and if he goes to fight back then you're free to not hold back and go for the win (within reason don't try to bloody kill him).

For me it was all caused by anxiety regarding my reputation, I avoided fighting to stay low on the radar, ironically the anxiety made my reputation worse as it turned me into a target in early high school (which is obvious now but not at 14).
I see my past bullies almost all the time, now I don't care anymore, I have all this built up anger because of suppressing everything and the feeling for revenge is so strong I don't get intimidated, this is not a good thing and they key reason you need to get your child to stand up for themselves, You don't want them turning into an angry pessimist like myself. That anger builds up (and is always on your mind) and the most important thing is to let it out at the time and win and retain your confidence.

It's funny how things turn out sometimes, my worst bully who was the strongest kid in school is now my best friend. I hated him and wanted to kill him for making my life miserable. Somehow he ended up as one of my best mates and eventually I learned his mum was on drugs and he was raised alone by his macho father (a body builder) who pretty much picks fights and acts like a jock. Now I see he had a life as hard as mine (harder even) and forgive him, that past doesn't even bother me anymore.
But that was a couple years after high school. At the time as a victim you're not even given a chance to socialize and learn information like this so you're still going to have to fight everyone who bullies you.
I guess my point is to try and give them a chance and figure them out if you can before assuming their trash. Most have their reasons but are still clearly wrong, you still need to beat them into a pulp if they're starting you but if you go in there thinking they're monsters you'll probably give them more than they deserve and go to far. Fighting really is an art as much as I hate to admit it.

You're kidding yourself if you think your kid can just off bullying, it'll severely scare him emotionally for life which is far worse than ANYTHING they can do to him physically.
For your child's own good you need to make sure he stands up for himself and most importantly doesn't avoid confrontations or stay quiet/shy. Teach him how to fight.

Otherwise he'll lose respect, self esteem, confidence, acceptance basically everything. And even if he moves to a new country or something (fresh start with new people), it won't help. He'll be stuck like that for life no matter what.

I'm to busy saving the planet volunteering and stuff to worry about bumping into my bullies. Also I'm a loner, just the way I want it.

Not in a very long time. I did see one at a high school reunion and he hadn't changed one bit.

yeah, and for some reason he was scared s**tless of me.
he'd bullied me on the school bus early on in elementary school.
i reported it and it stopped. i saw him again a few years later and said hi, but he just backed away with a look of abject fear in his eyes, leading me to believe his parents must've beaten him or something when they found out he got in trouble for bullying me.

Yeah...I'm not putting what happened on the internet though

Not in person, fortunately. But some of my old bullies insist on being my current bullies as well, attempting to screw up my life from a distance as much as they can. Which seems ridiculous. We're in our thirties now. What on earth is so important to them about trying to make my life miserable, that they would take time away from their jobs and their families to pull this kind of crap? It's such a waste of time, energy, and talent. But I guess some people get off on things like this, and some of them don't have the decency to feel ashamed of themselves. I guess some people never grow up.

I ran into a couple of girls who bullied me in junior high while I was at Wal-Mart buying an iPod. I don't think they even noticed me, but seeing them gave me a panic attack.

Girls in the 7th and 8th grade are the worst! I hate teenagers. They get in these groups with other girls and gossip and do stupid things. So cliquey. So stupid. I will never understand why people love to be bullies.

IdahoRose.

I probably would have said something to them to make them cry. I can't put the words on here. But I would say a few to them. I would love to make the bullies cry as they did to me.

I honestly would NEVER forgive any bully from school, family or work place. Most likely they just want my reaction. I'm sure bullies ask for forgiveness but it doesn't come from the heart. It's just their a** that's talking. Meaning it's not true. They aren't sorry for hurting me. I got no friends, but still deal with the teasing and bullying in the work place AND certain family members. I don't know but my uncle and cousin on dad's side despise me. They act as if I'm dumb. Well I won't go into what mistakes my cousin has made that I would never make.