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My mom read information on AS printed from the internet. She never bought books. She also read books like "The Difficult Child" and I can't remember the others.

My Mum also bought this kind of books when I was a child. And she was annoyed, because advices didn't work. Well, I wasn't difficult or horrible child, but just Aspie. But she discovered later I'm not rude NT and there's something called AS.

Were they Parenting books or what?

best way to get over asperger syndrome is to don't worry about having it and just better yourself everyday.

With the exception of Temple Grandin's The Way I See It, everything I've read about AS was written by a neurotypical researcher, and is dry, dispassionate and a little less than accurate, because not having the disorder, they can only describe how it appears from the outside, or generalize from things Aspergians have told them, and most of the time, they don't fully understand those descriptions because they haven't had the experience firsthand.

Books can certainly be helpful, but nothing can ever really give a neurotypical person a true understanding of what it's like to live inside an Autistic brain. Any NT who thinks they understand our condition after reading a book is an arrogant jackass.




'get over it'?? Its a congenital neurological condition - you don't 'get over it' - you're born with it, you live with it every day of your life and you die with it. If you think you're gonna cure yourself, you're in for a long, slow, painful disappointment. It doesn't go away no matter how much you ignore it, or try to brainwash your way around it. Denying it doesn't change who you are or make your differences go away. A turtle can't change himself into a bird by positive thinking.

Not that there's anything wrong with being a turtle.

It is frustrating when people think I could just stop 'this'. Once I was past my childhood I've questioned the motivation of those who wished I'd 'just get over it'. I have never had anyone express that to me unless they wanted something from me that was either difficult or impossible for me to give them, do with them, or for them. I question a parent that is spending their time on finding ways to overcome 'this', when understanding is much more of a positive atmosphere for growth. I have never been able to force myself to be ok, not react, not meltdown on command, or just be relaxed. It isn't how this works.

Yes. It was always known that I'm not normal, so she bought many books like Understand Your Child, My Kid Can't Behave etc. Many books. But advices were for NT kids, so it all was only waste of money. My Mum read these books and said OMG, she's totally different!
If I was younger, she would buy a book with better advices.

I have the opposite problem Ferdinand, my family doesn't want to read or talk about AS. I have tried to talk to them about it, or offer to give them some internet links that they can check out, and maybe understand me a little better, but they refuse to do either.

My father just considers me "funny in the head," which is how he categorizes any neurological conditions.