I quit! I'm canceling my membership!

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Alex re-surfaces from lurkdom when it comes to welcoming new members that's all.

Tigerfire, if you don't get along with two people oor they give you a hard time constantly then ignore them or have it sorted out by the admins. But alas this forum is crowded with mostly friendly people who are willing to help.
However, frankness is a basis of this forum. Based on frankness we can share our problems, relate to each other, help each other. Helping each other involves comments, hints, advice, not always judgmental but it may sound or actually be a criticism. If Emp brands you a sycophant in reply to you agreeing with Fiz's views - whether or not you truly be a sycophant -it is way out of order.
I can be sensitive to judgements, criticisms too, but usually not n an Internet forum as i don't get attached emotionally so much to them anymore.
But: for you to fully enjoy and appreciate the benefits of this forum, you have to handle criticism.
Or for your personal benefit in your private life...handle and manage your anger better.
As not always does criticism target or aim your whole person but just the issue and the bit of you in question.


I admit that people have to listen and then criticise, not jump to conclusions...

scourcered wrote: If Emp brands you a sycophant in reply to you agreeing with Fiz's views - whether or not you truly be a sycophant -it is way out of order.


What's wrong with beig a syncophant? It's a label you can wear with pride. (how many times have I said "ditto"?)

I like your posts too

I haven't looked at this forum lately and clicked on this post and remembered why. click

Hale: Is Tigerfire behaving like a sycophant 'only ' to Fiz or to others also?

It's good and healthy to have one's own opinion and mind, not praise and agree with someone beccause of who they are...
In other words: be independent...

I don't know the TigerFire person, perhaps they should consider returning.

But you're really cute and have pretty pink wings and he's not syncophanting you?

*I'd beter say my prayers!*

TigerFire, something just struck me. You've become a Veteran in a really short period of time. That's good going!

Hey TigerFire, don't leave. My boyfriend kicked me out last weekend because he was an NT and I have AS. I felt what you were going through during your breakup. I was having a very serious relationship end at the same time you were and you made me feel like I wasn't alone. Thanks.

TF,

When I see your posts I see a very angry and hurt young man that is a reflection of myself in a bygone time in my life when there was no internet, no AS-awareness to speak of, and those who were close to me were just as befuddled as any counsellors who ever tried to help me. You've been with us just over 6 weeks as of the time of this writing. Are you sure you want out?

Like scousered says, frankness is a basis of this forum and facing up to our demons is anything but pleasant. You also have to understand things aren't always as they seem. And you know what? You have a lot of company here

I've read your profile. I see you like to write
I haven't see any of your works but I'm guessing you probably write better than you can speak. I also write and I personally can't imagine a better therapy. Do you do any journalling? Do you write about the things you've gone through in your life? Do you ever write what you wish you could have been able to say verbally in any situation you experienced?

I'll also be the first to tell you that being AS-autistic really sucked for me all that time and although I've come to a time in my life that I've accepted it as part of what I'm all about, it still sucks some times. There is no changing the fact that it will be there to the end and out of any random cross-section of 150 people, there will never be more than 10 that I could relate to on the same level. All the more reason to be careful who I surround myself with. I'm not familiar with your personality traits but I'm guessing the same sort of thing applies with you.

And it sucks too when I meet up with a lady, get chatting up, then she sees that "something's not right about this guy" -but that's just the way closed-minded NT's are. What they don't understand, they F.E.A.R. (False Evidence Appearing Real). I too have heard that line so countless many a time: "I think you're a really, really nice guy but... " -and I still come across that to this day.

I'm open to anything you might want to share. Whatever you decide, good luck and God bless!

Dont leave please.
You are such a nice person and it would be a shame to loose you.

Please, don't think of it as black and white. How many people have acted nasty to you in these forums? There's going to be bad apples wherever you turn your head, at least here, people are used to the same situations you are, the same meaningless conflicts. I think you have a better chance of getting along with people on these boards.
Of course it hurts when people you count on willingly stabs you in the back, or at least act in a way that somehow makes you feel really bad. Try to talk it out, and if that doesn't work, leave them be.
(You can always create a new account, or lurk for a month or so, see if things cool down, either on the boards, or in your mind. Remember, the insult occurs when we decide to become upset. The comment is ours to react to.)