book_noodles wrote:
There's a similar concept my psychology teacher referred to as a "self-fulfilling prophesy."
That is perhaps the best concept I can think of.
Yes. It happens. I also call it the "ripple effect" or "string of pearls" effect.
It's not just us with relationships, it is also a reality for NTs with things like jobs and careers.
1. Make a poor choice which results in a consequence (often termination from a job).
2. Next good employer is hesitant to take you on because of your recent bad choice.
3. You're forced to take whatever you can get...usually low-end and lousy jobs.
4. In time, nobody remembers what happened at #1 above but they notice that you've never had a good job and PRESUME that there must be something wrong with you they aren't noticing. As a result, you don't get the job.
5. Again, you're forced to take whatever you can get...usually low-end and lousy jobs.
6. You try for a promising career opportunity, but that interviewer makes the same presumption that the last person made about you.
Success breeds success. Failure breeds failure. Once you get caught in a cycle, it's as if you get stuck there...takes a lot of work to change things.
25 Jun 2010, 8:12 am
