Adult bullying

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This is why they don't let me work with others.

As an adult, I just go "Hulk Smash" if I'm verbally bullied or things similar; I don't put up with it, but it lands me in trouble, hence, why they don't let me work with others.

At my machine shop job I could take a song add some bullies name to it then twist the words to make it raunchy, funny, or twisted. Everytime I did this the other employees could not wait for me hand out the lyric sheets to keep in their tool boxes or to sing at break to piss off the bully.

At the resteraunt job I use to spit in the bullies' drinks and food when no one was around. I learned this behavior on my first day of the job when one of the bullies waited for some other co-worker walked away from the break table and he spit in his food and drink. He then looked at me and said if you cross me you'll get this too. I tried to warn the guy but he laughed at me and ate away happy as a clam. I did a lot of grosser stuff I would write about but I think the mods would ban me or something.

Some of this kind of stuff (bullying) can sometimes be prevented by where you work and who you work with. The passive-aggressiveness and talking about you behind your back happens much, much more with women. If you're working somewhere like fast food, retail, etc (a job where you don't have to have a degree and stuff) there can be all sorts of people there...I think as you get into better and better jobs your situation will improve. There will always be stupid people who entertain themselves by picking at you, but not as much in jobs where you have more power...and if you become their boss you don't have to stand for it

All I can really suggest is if you know of some way to practice social skills. It would be great if there was a psychologist around that offered some sort of group therapy where you could talk about social skills...even better, one where you could role play. I'm sorry I don't have more advice...the adult bullying thing has not been a major problem for me, it happens but it seems to work itself out somehow.

to anyone who's replied:

when people with AS say they can't work, is this one of the reasons?

and if you get a formal diagnosis, does that qualify you for disability benefits?

I knew an aspie who worked at McDonalds and then she quit because of too much gossip she said.

I don't have a job but I've dealt with adult bullying at a place where I volunteered and with a circle of women friends I knew mostly just online. (I knew one of them in person, and she was the only one who was willing to stick by me, but only if I said that the bully and I were just "too different from each other," with no acknowledgment that she had bullied me. I couldn't deal with that in a friend, so I lost her friendship too).

I usually get along reasonably well, for several years even, but then I will suddenly make some unforgivable mistake without realizing it, and everything around me crashes and burns, and I am tossed out of whatever I was in like I'm some kind of despicable pariah. That's what gets me, is not knowing how to see that some subtle thing will get me into trouble.

I don't have any advice, because when I was bullied by the circle of women, I was actually trying really hard not to step on anyone's toes, but I failed so miserably. Even when I said I had tried to be careful not to offend, that was used against me. i was told: "Well, I'm sorry it's such a burden for you to have to put with me."

(And to answer yuor question, the reason I don't work is chronic fatigue, not AS.)