Can anyone help I got diagnosed 3days ago. Now feel confused

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First, if you've been seeing multiple psychiatrists and they all concur, then they've got a better idea what your issues are than a bunch of strangers on the Internet reading the symptoms that it occurs to you to write down. I'd generally assume they probably know what they're talking about, especially if they all agree on the diagnosis. The question is, HAVE THEY TESTED YOU FOR AS? There are a specific battery of psychological tests for determining a diagnosis of Asperger Syndrome, that last for several hours. Just conferring in a corner is not a legitimate method of diagnostic procedure.

On the other hand, anyone who flatly tells you you'll never be able to operate your own business is just an @ssh*le. But I will warn you, there are reasons why he would think that, and he is correct in that most Autistics do have significant limitations in Executive Function - its part of our neurological impairment - and those problems do affect a person's cognitive abilities to plan and execute complex tasks, so operating a business alone would be a very real challenge. That doesn't mean, however, that it is impossible, and its cruel of a doctor to indicate that you could never do it. It would probably help to have a Non-Autistic partner you could depend on, and the more tasks you can develop a routine around so that you remember to do them the same way every day, the more efficient and confident you will be.

All that said, stop freaking out that you might have Asperger Syndrome - its not brain cancer. Your entire reaction comes across as rather hysterical to me, and there's no need to get so bent about it. AS is a disability, a handicap, there's no denying it. It does not, however, mean that you're either insane nor ret*d. In fact, in my experience, the most debilitating aspect of it is that when you are having a problem that's related to Autism, nobody believes you, because you look so normal on the surface.

It bothers me that your psychiatrist told you to look for information on the internet. Doctors don't do that. They hate it.

He may be correct that *his* kind of counselling won't help you.

Of course you can have your own business - like everybody else, you'll need training in people skills and so on. You can probably do a lot more stuff on-line - I'm a freelance writer and I do volunteer work - both on-line. You can make some really good life experiences on-line.

You need a doctor or psychologist who is experienced with Asperger's in adults. The things your psychiatrist told you are disgusting trash - no wonder you're upset. You can and will have a perfectly good life. He delivered that diagnosis like a punch below the belt. You really need to talk to somebody else.

As for Avoidant - if you've lived with Asperger's all your life without help, then of course you would be avoidant. I meant to tell you - I have a terror of hearing my own name, it means somebody is going to do something to me. I've felt like that all my life.

Be of good cheer - and come and hang out with us - whatever you've got, you're going to be fine.