Can you detach yourself from emotions?

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This seems like an easy and reasonable technique, which I will definitely try. I'm only realizing after so many years just HOW emotionally attached to things/people I am and how emotional I can get when certain things don't happen the way I expect them to. It really surprised me because I've always felt that I was totally independent and convinced myself I didn't care what people thought. But now I understand that I can become so emotionally invested in something or someone that it overly influences my decisions and the way I think. And I hate it. I hate not feeling confident in my choices and doubting myself. I hate feeling like I need validation from others in order to feel that I've done something good or right. I hate feeling guilty or bad about myself when others don't agree with something I do or say, no matter how strongly I feel about it sometimes. I hate that I end up doing things I don't want to or shouldn't do because I want to feel connected with others. And I hate that something can make me so upset and angry that it ruins my whole day.

It's possible I overused the word 'hate' in that paragraph, but it's true. It's important to me to have independence in all aspects of my life, and not having the ability to control myself when it's needed makes me feel inadequate, overall.

Yes. Surprisingly easily for an aspie. It has to do with the way I think; I don't seem to see or hear things in my mind (although I can if I want) - thoughts are 'processed', and not in a way I could describe using traditional sensory words such as seeing or hearing. And emotions are the same for me, just concepts. And once I become aware that I'm feeling an emotion, I can easily decide not to feel it. Effectively, I think feelings, as opposed to feeling them.