Question about aspie and life prospects ?

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Career: Hoping to find a library!

Job: Several over a span of 21-some-odd years

House: Use to - I will again!

Family : Yeah, thankfully though we live several hundred miles apart, otherwise the homicides would have been spectacular

Social Life: Yeah, a comfortable one.

Sex Life: Does a vibrator count?

Everything listed above is possible with AS; I daresay it's even PROBABLE. My suggestion is to not let yourself get held hostage by NT "standards", okay?

Yeah, sure. Of course there's a chance. Why not?

I don't have a job or a sex life yet, but I'm still in high school. (Not a normal high school, but the curriculum meets state standards. It's not a "special" school, anyway. And you should immediately assume just from that that there's a chance, because if there weren't, there wouldn't be a reason to give me an education.) Plus, normal is overrated; I'd rather have what works for me than what's normal. With regard to social life, I have as many friends as I'd like and get out of the friendships nothing worse than what other people get out of theirs, but I don't have a normal social life. With two exceptions, my friends aren't normal. There's the crazy actress, the girl with the speech impediment who wore a seifuku to our social skills group and the autistic girl. And then I have some internet friends, one of whom I met at a party. Perhaps not the type of party some people would throw, but a party nonetheless, and a fun one. (With NTs, although I hesitate to say "normal people" in reference to these particular NTs.)

Where did you get the idea that we all end up in group homes?

Well I know I'm screwed, I don't know about you guys though.
I can see how I might make it through university & some manner of grad school and then not be able to get a job because I am a weirdo
I think marriage is possible; I've had a boyfriend for 2 years and it's going suspiciously well.
I'd rather give myself an appendectomy with a rusty candelabrum than stay at home with my parents my whole life.

It's a bit more difficult generally for people with ASDs, but not impossible.

It doesn't sound like you're nearly as "screwed" as I am. I don't know if I could ever make it through uni, let alone grad school, no matter what I was majoring in. As it stands now...I only have an AA in liberal arts which I obtained WITH course substitutions for math. So if my major involved ANY math beyond pre-algebra, (or courses like chemistry, physics, economics which math-heavy ofcourse) I really don't know if I could ever handle it no matter how hard I tried or what accommodations I received. I'm 40 y/o so it's getting a bit late in day for me be worrying about whether I can pass college algebra or not.


I wish someone would offer me the appendectomy option. There is nothing pleasant about living with parents for one's entire life I can assure you.

Marriage, sex and romantic relationships don't really concern me one way or another. I am relatively lucky in that case. Thank god for schizoid personality disorder or at least the way it has manifested in me

I don't think i'd ever want to marry no matter what. I can live with, or equally happily without, romantic relationships and sex.

i never understood the whole 'life prospects' thing. i just want to do my thing and die. nothing more nothing less.

I don't know if I'll make it through uni, I am assuming that I can for the moment because I am bookish, fascinated by biology, and disinterested in the social aspects of school. With that said, high school has been a disaster for my nerves so who knows

To the first set of questions: yes to all. However, it's no secret that aspies have trouble forming friendships, and relationships. ie, they are more likely to be single and to have fewer friends than the "neurotypical" person. I recall reading a study based on asperger's a while back that surveyed around 30 men; 28 or so of those men were not married, nor in a relationship. A bit of a shocker.

Non-"aspie" autistic:

Career: No.
Job: No.
House: No. I live in a subsidized apartment in a senior/disabled complex and receive services for most of the day.
Family: No.
Social life: Barely. (Almost never socialize.)
Sex life: No.

But that doesn't mean I'm unhappy or anything. That's a totally separate question.

I have no career, I have a low skills job but I like it.
I have no social life but I see 2 people regularly but it's just errand running and I don't enjoy it.
I have no love life.
I have a good relationship with my family.
I have a 12 year old AS son.
I have no house.

Sounds grim, but I'm OK. It is what it is.

Career: nada
Social life: zippola
Love life: what's that?
Family: no kids or spouse, have a few immediate relatives; they're ok and leave me alone a lot
House: owned by someone else

My brains melted halfway out of my head some years ago, resulting in a loss of a lot of skills I had put a lot of time into developing. I've pretty much made my peace with that, but it was the thing that finally knocked me off of worrying about being on the 'right track' of life. The 'standard' life just isn't going to happen, but that's alright, there are some good people in the world who aren't tied up in ranking people by their money, social status, "maturity," and "normalcy" and so on.

I go to several autism groups, I am married but I am not into sex that much.
I can have a job if I get hired and can pass the interview. I have no career. I just work as a janitor.
I live in a apartment. No kids yet.

I consider myself lucky I found someone. I thought I may never keep a relationship and normal men would just leave me before I leave them because I found relationships difficult. I consider myself lucky in other things too like having a job and not getting fired when I could have and I don't experiance work place bullying. In fact my co worker is and she thinks they are doing it so she retire a lot sooner because she is 67. I think so too.