Do you get really guilty about messing up?

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Yes. I feel disproportionately guilty over minor mistakes I make. The guilt stays with me for days or weeks. If I make a really big mistake and I know I've genuinely hurt someone, the amount of guilt I feel makes me cry and I beat myself up over it for months or years.

not guilty really but more anxious

Yes, very much.

Not only do I feel guilty but I get flashbacks of it so I get the pleasure of reliving it.

Same here. I've made progress in the past few years, but it's still something I have to fight, and I don't always win. It'd be great to have a friend who knew when to reassure me at such times, but they'd have to be brave and to have a very good way with words, because I never believe the usual glib stuff such as "don't worry, it wasn't really your fault." When I installed Windows 3.1 on my partner's computer, I locked up the whole machine, and she said I was "unconsolable." It might well have been Microsoft's fault, but I'd brought the discs and installed them without really warning my partner of any risks, so I felt completely responsible for killing the machine.

Like I say, I've made some progress in softening my self-loathing when I screw up, by learning to recognise it while it's happening and by trying to reassure myself, and telling myself that the feelings will pass. Also, on a good day, if I've caused anybody harm by messing up a task, I'll look into ways of making good the damage I've done. And, less helpfully, I tend to avoid trying anything I might get wrong.

I do the same thing; I still remember nearly every time I've ever offended someone, even in 1st grade (that's 8 years ago) in perfect detail and the memory just comes up and bites me whenever I'm feeling blue. Then again, I also remember nearly every time that I've socially goofed up in general, even when I gave a wrong answer in class, since about 3 years ago, so that level of remembering might just be me.

Yes. I still feel guilty about messing up a part on the first day at work. Instead of .03, I ended up putting in -.03. I fixed the error, but still, I shouldn't have made that stupid of a mistake. That was one part that shouldn't have to be rejected.

yep. Too much. My gf gets mad when I "beat myself up" but if I do not act this way she accuses me of being nonchalant. its like I cant win for loosing

In real life, yes. Usually.

On the internet, not so much but sometimes.

Sometimes guilty. Sometimes embarrassed. Sometimes angry at myself. Sometimes all of the above.

I know this. I feel like you. Especially the family thing is the same.

I feel guilty for everything I mess up on. The guilt usually only lasts about an hour, but I still remember what went wrong. I rarely talk to people outside my family so I don't usually have the opportunity to say the wrong thing. When I do say the wrong thing, it does mess me up for a while. I still hate how I accidentally said the wrong thing to the girl who runs the Crater Supply shop in Megaton, which is in a video-game.

Not guilty usually, more annoyed and down-hearted that things didn't go as I wanted them to and people acted off-hand or disrespectfully

I am more likely to feel righteous anger than guilt

If I mess up in a situation I feel frustrated with myself but not guilt

Guilt is something I feel if I think I've acted in an unethical/immoral way

It depends on the magnitude of the mess-up, but usually not guilt so much as shame and self-hatred. Followed by a healthy dose of catastrophic thinking.