Do any of you like to be looked after or pampered?

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I absolutely hate being pampered.

When I'm sick I want to be left alone.

Sometimes when I get a little help I'm thankful, but I also believe in me helping others which I do on a regular basis.

I can't work but that doesn't mean I don't want independence. Having a care worker is really weird for me, I do once a week, but I still think Why? I don't need it. Which I do, but that is another story.

I wouldn't want to live with parents or anyone else. I moved when I was 17 and it wasn't a day too soon.

I'm not quite sure what the question is asking but I think my answer would be yes. I don't know why. My parents have told me they cuddled with me normally when I was a baby and everything but somehow I often feel tense like I need someone to comfort me at night. Somehow I feel that I emotionally matured later so I needed more closeness at a later age than the average kid.
I think because the world was so disorienting to me with Aspergers, it would have helped if my parents had talked to me as if I was still a toddler when I was like 4 or something. I feel like it would be helpful if someone offered more guidance and support to me. Because I have always hated trying to act my age while other people who are slightly younger are able to grow at the proper rate.
I guess I'm more sensitive because I feel like I need more comfort. I wish I was shorter so that I could still fit on adults laps.

Are we talking about stuff like spa treatments and manicures and things here? 'Cause if that's what the OP was referring to... umm... NO. Heck no. I do NOT like those things; I even cut my own hair. I just hate being manhandled, whether or not it's supposed to be "pampering".

I hate being doted over, or waited on hand and foot by somebody constantly asking if I need something, asking constantly, "Are you comfortable? Do you need anything? Are you hungry? Would you like a slice of pie?" etc. etc.

That kind of attention drives me nuts. I had a grandmother like that, and though I know it was her way of showing love, I could only take it so long.

I have IBS though, and I'm extremely sick to my stomach during the first few hours after waking up, sometimes for several hours. I ask my kids to make coffee for me regularly, because coffee helps. I can be so sick some mornings that just making coffee is an exercise in torture. I often ask them to get me some juice or toast during those early hours. I don't mind at all being waited on and taken care of if I actually ask for it, but I do NOT like feeling as though I need it, even though I do need it sometimes.

I'm the same way in restaurants. I hate it when the wait staff comes over too often. If I need something bad enough, and they aren't paying attention, I'll trip them if I have to. Just kidding, but I have no problem asking for what i need, be it at home or otherwise. I don't have too much of a problem admitting I need help. Even if that means help paying the bills for whatever reason.

I don't like it, but I'll do whatever has to be done to make sure things are taken care of that should be. In the past, I've ignored the problems I couldn't take care of. All that does is create more and bigger problems. Pride is good for some things, but there is such a thing as too much pride. Sometimes you just have to be humble and admit there are some things you aren't able to take care of yourself.

Pretty tough for an Aspie that doesn't like dealing with people.