"I love you"

Post Reply New Topic

My 14 year old son, who has AS, has always memorised and used movie quotes in real life conversations and situations.

After watching the movie Brother Bear, he says "I love dew too" when ever I tell him that I love him.

It works for me!

I think I might have said "I love you" to my pet cat a couple of times, but I can't recall ever saying it to another person because I am afraid of their emotional response. When someone tells me they love me such as a family member I usually get anxious because I do not know how to react and feel guilty about not saying "I love you" back to them.

It makes me uncomfortable for anyone other than family members to say it to me, and vice versa.

I've never been able to say it to my parents and other family members. I only say it to my girlfriend.

Family love and partner love are different, and for some reason, "I love you" only works with the latter in my mind.

Agh, I can't say this. Ever - even to my family. I think I write either a love-heart or just "from" on cards, but I've probably never said those words aloud. People saying it to me freaks me out too.

I tend to sign cards (for family and some friends) "Love" (like, the bit about the name at the end).

But, otherwise...

My husband, no problem saying "I love You" or when he says it to me.

Anyone else, saying it is just not something I can do. Which makes it feel awkward when someone else says it, because I can't say it back. My sister, and one of my friends tend to often end phone conversations that way.

I feel uncomfortable even thinking of using it.

I like hearing it said to me, and saying it to someone else, in a romantic context, as long as it's actually true.

I think most people have a hard time saying I love you.

Spazzergasm wrote (in part): Saying this, or having it said to me, always carries a certain discomfort for me. Do you guys feel the same way?
I've just noticed, unless it's said while laughing, or in an otherwise non-serious manner, it makes me uncomfortable. Even saying it or having it said from my parents.
It's not like I don't love people. And I do try and tell them. But it's not very regularly, and I can't remember the last time I said it to a family member.
I worry for example, with my friends, I don't say it enough, because sometimes we'll say it to each other, say on the phone, and then another time, we won't. Do you think they're noticing this? And then the terribleness of when someone you don't love casually says they love you...Then you have to lie and say you love them too.... Does this sentence make anyone else uncomfortable?...

---

At one time, I certainly did rebel against hearing or seeing words like I love you.

In the home I grew up in, the word love was never mentioned.

I came to believe that words like I love you might only be said briefly within the context of a wedding ceremony.

In grammar school, there was something called Valentine's Day where cards were exchanged and I realized that different students received a different number of cards. Some received many, some very few.

There was the notion of red hearts and so on and heart-shaped candies which implied an idea of sweetness and cordiality.
Have met a small number of persons (2) who would tend to use the one (1) word love pretty regularly above their signatures to everyone - it was their way of sending out a feeling of harmony to all in their correspondence.

Because of how love can be defined - from Valentine's Day to other ways - the three words I love you can make a person feel uncomfortable at times it appears to me.

One TV minister (Robert Schuller/Crystal Cathedral) regularly says: "God loves you and so do I.."

No, I can't say it. I can't even give my parents mushy cards for Mother's and Father's Day.

Before I knew what AS was my mom always tried to make me say it back to her on the phone. I told her "I can't! I just can't!" I didn't understand why and neither did she. I hope she can understand now and that it doesn't hurt her feelings. Whenever she says it to me I just answer "Ok."

I prefer to show my emotions through action rather than words. I think words are somewhat meaningless.

Naw not really. Probably has to do with most the times I remember it being said to me was from drunk people.