MrXxx wrote:
FAss wrote:
eon wrote:
now it is the time to stop trying so hard to be "Exactly" like everyone else to satisfy them and stand up for who you are, embrace your talents, and push them to the front in dealing with life and people.
I am really curious - why couldn't you do it before you were diagnosed? In my opinion, you should not try to be like anyone else whether you are diagnosed with anything or not.
I'm not speaking for Eon. I'm just curious to see if my answer would be the same.
I don't think it's really a matter of whether or not we "can" do it beforehand. It's more a matter of not really knowing for certain, so we kind of have to go on the premise there really is nothing different about us, so we feel obliged to continue trying as hard as we can to do and be like everyone around us. It's societal expectation. Once you learn that even the NT world of psychology agrees there is something measurably different, it's like a pressure valve being released. Not that we should use our diagnosis to NOT do our best and keep trying our hardest, but at least we know our limitations aren't just imaginary. They are real, therefore we can now embrace who we are, come to understand it, better, and most importantly, get to know what our true strengths and weaknesses are, and work with both rather than against them.
Personally, throughout my life prior to discovering my aspie self, I was sort of lost in a zoomed in segment of myself, missing the big picture. I jumped from segment to segment, failing to embrace who I was and instead defining myself by a rebellion against any given force that sought to suppress that piece of me that I was zoomed in on.
As I said, once you are sure of your diagnosis, fully aware of the talents you possess and the ways that they make you different than others from your very nucleus outward, you're in a new position to harness the talents you have and assert yourself in the way that will be best for you and is fair to you. Previous to that, how could you have been fair to yourself in dealing with life without the awareness of your core talents-- the explanation for why you feel different and struggle to communicate or socialize?
22 Aug 2010, 3:40 pm
