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I tend to have certain 'stereotypical' beliefs about men and women, which I use to navigate unknown people. I am always open to adjust my initial pre-judgement (?) preparation (?) for dealing with either sex, once I get to know the person a bit.

Some of my more lasting 'statistical observations' (as I consider them)
- I find female managers tend to be more interested in workplace harmony, and male managers more interested in results and achievements. This makes me prefer male managers.

- I find male doctors to be more inclined to a fast, strict, confident and final diagnosis based on their external observations and judgements, whereas female doctors are more likely to involve the patient (viewpoints, opinions, internal experiences) in a diagnosis, and more likely to admit they are unsure (need more examination / test) before concluding an answer. This makes me prefer female doctors.

There are others, but as those are the primary two of concern in my life at the moment, I give them as examples.

Does this make me sexist? I don't believe so. It's simply my observations and preferences in regards to the benefits and detriments (to my needs) of the sexes as observed over time in particular professions.

To me sexist means thinking one sex is superior to the other. I think both sexes have their (generally predictable) different areas of strength and different processes of handling their interactions with others.

I certainly don't believe I am. If anything....I think I view my own gender (male) in a more negative light than I view the opposite one.


That being said.....I would like to know exactly how the OP is defining sexism as it pertains to the sexism of males towards females.

After all....such things are usually pretty subjective and one person's sexist might be another person's feminist.

I agree with most of this.


Though I don't think all of us can get dates even if we don't sit on the comp all day/complain and no matter how many times we attempt to date. I am living proof of this, though unlike some males here, it really doesn't trouble me.

I'm just not very appealing to women....that's all there is to it.


PHYSICALLY speaking I am according to countless people (including countless women) who've told me i'm very attractive and should've been a male model, actor, Chippindale's dancer...blah, blah, blah.

I have actually been sexually involved with dozens of women over the years and I think it has everything to do with this. These relationships usually didn't last very long (though I was in one five-year relationship with a women who is currently one of my only friends) because i'm otherwise unappealing to women.

I've never had a steady job/decent income and i've never been fully financially independent of my family.



Couple this with my social deficits and my overall weirdnesses and eccentricities and i'm just not appealing to many women.

At least when it comes to the kind of women who would be appealing to ME. As for those who would ask me to "lower my standards", i'm afraid that's easier said than done. That would be like asking a gay person to start finding members of the opposite sex attractive. Through nature and/or nurture....we humans are attracted to what/whom we're attracted to and there's not much we can do about that.


At any rate....I suppose this is one of the blessing of schizoid personality disorder, at least in my case.


I am more or less indifferent towards sex. I'm not really asexual, but I do consider myself anti-sexual and I don't feel like explaining what that means to me.

Aside from my "anti-sexuality".....I view sex much in the same way I view lobster. Lobster is probably the most delicious food stuff in the world. It has many equals (in an apples/oranges sense), but nothing surpasses it. Nonetheless...if I never ate lobster again in my life, it wouldn't bother me. Nor do I think my quality of life would be any lesser if I never even tried lobster.

Last edited by Horus on 29 Aug 2010, 3:00 pm, edited 2 times in total.

No, I'm not sexist. I also believe both sexes have their own strengths and are not comparable to one another.

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yes. i think everyone discriminates towards the opposite sex. when it becomes sexism i don't know.

That depends on how you define "sexism."

I, like many others on this thread, believe there are biological/evolutionary differences between men and women that affect behavior; however, I think that people should ultimately be judged on their individual merits and be given a fair chance to pursue their goals and interests without regards to their genitalia.

Do I have preferences towards which sex I'd rather deal with in certain situations based on my personal experience? Yes. For example, I prefer male cops and female gynocologists. But I understand that my personal experience is just that: personal. There are 6.7 billion people on this planet with 6.7 billion "personal experiences" that have nothing in common with mine.

As for the anti-women attitude on WP, I observed the exact same thing here as I do everywhere else I encounter the WOMAN = EVIL vibe. It doesn't have so much to do with "sexism" as it does with narcissism. Men (or women) who are self-absorbed and in love with themselves tend not to take any responsibility for their shortcommings (if they even admit to having any), and are prone to blaming all of their life's poblems on other people and/or society. If these same men had been born as women, they'd be posting about how evil men are. I would Google the term "malignant nacissim" the next time you're bored. Observe:

Sound familiar?? "Roissey Blog," anybody? Besides, even Tony Attwood states that arrogance and self-absorption can be "coping" mechanisms for people with AS.


--XFG

I don't believe I'm sexist, no. I think that some women can do everything I can do equally well, and some even better. Some worse too!

I could sometimes be perseved as sexist in the way that I often insist on carrying bags for the women I'm with, but all of these women are people who don't work out and they admit they have less strength, so why not?

I can also make sexist jokes but I also make racist ones and I'm not racist either. Humor is subjective, I take it for what it is, and it's not an attack, it's just funny!!

Does it count as sexism that I feel jealous of men for their physical strength, the fact that their bodies are more functional, and they rarely have to fear being raped?

I'm not.

[quote="mechanicalgirl39"]Does it count as sexism that I feel jealous of men for their physical strength, the fact that their bodies are more functional, and they rarely have to fear being raped?[/quot

Its not so sweet believe me.

I cant play with children or talk to a very young girl without appearing as a monster to many

kinda funny how none of the obvious sexists at WP have replied to this thread.

I'm not an obvious sexist? Wow is that a compliment?

A few weeks ago, a friend of mine told me something an ex-boyfriend (a fellow Aspie) said to her:

"I'm the man and you're the woman. Don't you agree that I should make all the decisions?"

Needless to say, the relationship didn't last.

Eh... I'm more jealous that men have a penis and I don't. I also wouldn't call men's bodies more functional. They're functional in different ways.

I would say we are more functional. Maybe less flexible but faster and stronger.