Who here is still strongly dependant on others at adulthood?

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I worked in retail two summers ago doing pretty menial work like stocking shelves, organizing merchandise after customers rifle through it, helping customers find the item they've been looking for, and telling disappointed old ladies that we don't have an in-store vacuum repair center or a certain matress or bed set that they are absolutely positive we have. It paid $6.50 per hour for roughly 25-35 hours per week part time (full time is actually a worse deal).

I got my driving permit when I was 15.5 years old and got my driver's license on the third try when I was 17 years old. I have a savings account and a credit card too.

I am almost finished with college, receiving a bachelor of arts degree in computer science with a minor in French language and literature, although this was financed mostly by my parents.

I share my mom's car with my brother and sister.

I live at my mom's house and am searching for a post-college job as well as anything for the mean time.

I definitely do not want to continue being financially dependent on my parents and definitely want to avoid the welfare/SSI rolls.

27 here, and still pretty dependent..... No full-time job in almost 8 years, some college but no degree, not really any close friends, not enough money to get my own apartment for very long, driver's license but no car and I'm terrified of driving anyway, and my dad owns the house that I currently live in. I buy all of my computer-related things but my parents still pay for the majority of my groceries and clothes. I feel like a burden, and although I believe I've taken some steps forward in the past few years, I still can't picture myself ever doing "what [my] old classmates must be doing right now".

I sympthathise there Drummer-girl I was in a pretty similair predicament at one point. I also had the same accusations thrown at me when I was out of work, the job centre people really dont understand AS at all i think its one of the wost and most depressing places you can end up on is the dole. It destroys your self esteem utterly.

I have to say though that when you do eventually move out your relationship with your parents will improve dramatically, especially once the mother starts to get over that "chicks leaving the nest" mentatality though thats natural

You do live in a lovely part of the country though whatever you do don't be tempted to move to South East England. The city life is so over rated

i would fit into this category i think. i'm 24 and have never worked. left school aged 13 due to mental illness, live with my parents on incap and dla. i was planning to move in with another aspie guy who i know online in sept but its in edinburgh and is far to expensive/ risky. if if did that they'd probably take my benefit off me and as i feel too unwell to work i really need the money.

my guess is i'll be one of those 45 year olds who still lives with their parents. miserable situation

My self-esteem has pretty much declined some. At first I had some shots to my persona, but i was able to move out of it. But now for

Why do you say they would cut you off benefits if you moved to Edinburgh? The reason I ask is because I find that people often have these assumptions that social services can't help, they are afraid to ask for help, and often live in restricted circumstances for years, but then it turns out that, amazingly and lo and behold, if you are forthright and honest about what you need and can provide medical documentation then social services does provide the assistance you need.

I'm 19, and although my parents are pushing me to become independent, I definitely don't feel ready to be independent just yet. I can't drive, and the thought of even that scares me, since I can't judge distance in relation to speed at all, so even crossing the road takes a huge effort for me. I don't have a job either, and taking the train into college on my own really stresses me out. I feel bad about being too dependent on my parents, but at the same time I'm scared to leave them and do things on my own.