Do you invite people to your home?

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I remember that when I was in first class of High School, my parents told me I should make New Year Party and people would like me after this. So I made it and I invited some dark people (metals, goths, etc.) from my school. They took their friends and finally I had 30 people in my house. It was horrible! I didn't have any fun, I spent all the party hidden somewhere and I had a big trauma about 2 months after it all. I hadn't more friends, my parents were wrong. It was my first and last party. No more!

I think I would freak out if I had 30 people in my house...

I only invite very close friends and since I only have a few and most of them don't even live in the same country it doesn't happen that often.

What I really hate are those infamous "pop in" visits. These days if someone knocks and I don't expect anyone I don't even bother to check who it is . Sorry, but is it so hard to call first?

If I'm going to hang out with someone, I prefer it at their house, not mine. Or somewhere else entirely.

I just don't see myself having fun in my house if it's outside of my room, and I want to try new things... take a break from my parents. Something like that.

I must have my solitary space, or all else be damned!! If you are going to visit, call first. If I don't answer, don't travel to see me unless there is reasonable suspicion to believe I am deceased. If you observe me outside my home, feel free to stop by; I don't mind.

Three years ago, when my ex-girlfriend still lived with me, there was a huge party thrown for her older son who would be departing to Israel/Egypt for the military. Well over 100 people showed up to this event. I had spent the previous night working either 10 or 12 hours at work, came home to help take an old sub-floor we had ripped out to the county waste dump, finished up putting the new floor in, and went to sleep. My family basically had to drag me out of the bedroom to participate about 2 hours into the first arrivals.

I went straight to a good spot to sit down, and I never moved from that spot. My brother fed me beer the entire night, and I got drunk for the first, only, and last time ever. It sure was easy after that! Talk about truth serum! I made quite a few people angry that night, but also made quite a few laughs as well. This was the only way I was able to survive this. I don't know if I could ever experience that again.

I always prefer visiting people at their homes, or better yet in a public place or at an office, etc. I feel the same way as the OP, in that the home is the castle, and I don't want to smell, see, nor feel the presence of anyone in the house other than those who belong. But let me be clear; It's not a trust issue, and I don't think that any guest would judge me or steal/damage anything. It's just a violation of personal space, which is a terrible thing to say about a friend or relative's visit. And one more thing to add: It would bother me more than the invasive factor, not to have anyone visit at all. There's a balance here, and I do also get enjoyment from having people over.

On the other hand, a pop-in (surprise) visitor might as well be a rattlesnake, as far as how it makes me feel.

Charles

No. I don't have any friends (and am fine with this), don't want to socialize anyway, and hate counting down the time until annoying people realize I want them to go.

No, I think I'm pretty uncomfortable with people at this point. There are too many issues for me now. It's weird to say maybe but I expect people to be jealous of me for one reason or another and I don't want to anticipate that on top of all the other stresses involved. That seems to be all I have ever gotten from people and it does surprise me, too. I am not competitive and don't relate to the mentality. So I enjoy my life and my space alone and rarely need anyone. I was a little thrown off when I didn't have my furniture and belongings and felt very much lost and perhaps even lonely, because of it. I have always been object oriented and don't understand the workings or interpersonal relationship stuff around other people.

I have a 'pop-in' list of a few close friends who know me for who I am and love me anyhow. Those folks are always welcome to come over. I do have a difficult time with people just 'dropping in' (funny thing is my 'pop-in' list of friends knows this and would never pop-in unexpectedly) as it breaks my routine (even if I'm not actually doing anything).

I had a rental inspection on my place recently (this may be unique to Australia) and I ended up feeling disconcerted and honestly quite violated for about three days afterwards.

So yes, I do enjoy having people over, but only the people I am close with and only if I know they are coming at least one or two days in advance.

No! I HATE people coming over. I never invite them, and I hate when they show up unexpectedly. At least call, so I know to expect you. They disrupt everything. And they take up a lot of time. If you want to see someone it doesn't take a few hours. It doesn't even take a few minutes! You just see them, and you're good.

I don't for two main reasons. One, I can't be guaranteed peace in my own home and don't want to subject visitors to it. Two, most of my socialising takes place in town in and around the autism resource centre so that's the natural place to meet.

No. There are people I would certainly invite, but circumstances and distance prevent it.

No, I don't like it. My home is the place where I can be myself. If people came over, they would misunderstand many things.

Absolutely not.

No and I'd prefer not to if they aren't someone I'm taking to bed or playing video games with. Even family I'd prefer not be around.

No.

I used to think I should, and I used to also think I couldn't because my house was too messy/yukky.

Now I don't feel either of those things. I feel better.

My house isn't 'messy/yukky' any more either but I don't think that's the point.

My parents have one of their friends from Chicago over right now and I can't stand it! Having someone over messes with me and I have to keep myself from stimming as much as possible.