Do you want your kids to be autistic?

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No of course not, I'd want them to be normal and hopefully have more popularity than I've had growing up, I don't want them to be really unpopular and picked on a lot. I wouldn't mind how they turned out, but I'd prefer them to be normal.

Exactly.
Someone that wants their kid to have a disability like their's because they'll relate to them is kind of selfish in my opinion. You may relate to your kid but it doesn't mean they will be happy not relating to NT's.

I don't really care whether they are or not.

No.

I'd want my kids to have all the options life has to offer, and I know of hardly anyone with AS who has not had significant options in life denied to them because of the conditions they must cope with.

Maybe living with AS isn't all that bad for some, but autism is a crap shoot. How good or bad you have it is a case-by-case situation, and I'd just as soon not have my kid's life undergo that gamble in the first place.

I don't care. I'd love them the way they were.

Oh god no. I wouldn't want to wish Emotional bombardment, misunderstanding, social confusion and isolation on anyone. I think it's selfish to want a child to have some kind of asd just to make the parent feel better.

My kids are not autistic, although I see autistic traits occasionally, which I suppose I am sensitive to, and they are actually within the typical range.

I would accept them however they turned out, but I would not have wished them to be autistic, because I would not wish them the social isolation and social difficulties that I have suffered. They are healthy and happy, and I can not conceive of any way in which autism would make them any healthier or happier than they are.

I would not choose for them to not be autistic either, if there was such a choice.

Hmm.. I would like my kids to have the benefits of autism, while not having too many of the negatives. Of course, you don't really get to pick that. You could do worse than having autism, it's a mixed blessing.

I already have an aspie son, and I love him just exactly as he is. I wouldn't change him for the world. However, if I had other kids I'd want them to be neurologically nearer the "norm", so that they had an easier life.

I'd rather f**k a sandblaster than have kids, but in some weird alternate universe (like "I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant" jesus how braindead are those women?) where I had no choice in the matter, I would rather the girls at least be on the spectrum. I'm trying to think of how I'd relate to a stereotypically flighty girly NT girl and can't imagine it.

I dont want kids to start with but if i had to hell no i want them to be ret*ds like every other teenager.

Before I knew what autism was, I always decided I didn't want kids because I didn't want them to have to live through the same kind of crap that I did.

But now that I know, I'm kind of on the fence.

Not like I have to worry about having kids any time soon...by the time the option rolls around, I'll probably be so old that I won't want any

Yep, pretty classic example of sarcasm. My guess is it means that the poster believes wanting a child to have autism is a selfish proposition because it means you want the child to be just like you rather than an independent individual.

My own comment to this: NTs do this all the time, too... they will have expectations on their kids; and if the kids don't live up to those expectations (for example, by being autistic... or for that matter simply not wanting to be a doctor like Daddy wants)... then they push their kids until the kids break and the family shatters. It's kind of sad, really.

Autistics are so diverse that if you have an autistic kid, it's not like you're going to automatically understand them. Not all autistics think alike, after all. Yeah, you'll have similar neurology; but if you believe you won't have to work to communicate with the kid, you've got another thing coming--even NT parents and their NT kids have to do that, and NTs are specialized in communication!

If I were to have children, I would want them to have the best shot they could have at being happy and successful. Though autistic people tend to be successful in terms of where their intellectual abilities take them, they also tend to be lonely and depressed. Just look at the love and dating section of this forum. Experiencing the loneliness and depression on a daily basis myself, I wouldn't wish this condition on anyone else.

If NTs decided to jump off the bridge, would you also jump off the bridge? I thought the whole reason we generally look down on NTs was because we know how stupid and unreasonable they can be, not because we think they make excellent role models.

Most people here are "high-functioning" and they still know how difficult life is with autism. I just can't imagine what kind of self-centered idiot would wish for their own kid to have the same experience (or worse, if what the kid has is more severe than AS) just so they'd have someone to relate to. Seriously? Don't ever have kids.

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Can't say I'm too sure. I guess I'd prefer them to be Aspie, just because of my biases, and because I think they'd have more potential that way. Also, if this is in a future where prenatal testing for Asperger's exists, I'd want them to have AS just to rebel against such Nazi bollocks.

All of this, of course, is completely moot, due to the fact I will never have my own family.

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