How old is too old to live with your parent for an autistic?

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I really wanted to go away to college but, when I realized the reality of that I just couldn't do it.

I finally moved out at 26. I went all the way to Japan! But I didn't wanna live here alone so I got a sharehouse. Now I live with 1 roommate. I don't have any trouble living on my own but I'd never not wanna be living with someone else.

First of all, take Aspie out of the equation for a minute... The issue is whether or not you and you parents are in a healthy relationship and are mutually supporting. If an adult child is "living off parents", that's very unhealthy for all involved. But if, let's say, an adult child contributes to the household, and is working (if suitable), or maybe is keeping house while parents work, it might be fine forever. When I was a little kid, I lived with my Grandma, mother and aunt. 3 women; and no adult male in the household. My Grandma died when I was 10, and then my mother had a stroke when I was 17, and had to be in a wheelchair. My aunt had a good career which she enjoyed, and as it worked out, I finished high school, and took care of my mother at home while my aunt went to work. When my mother died when I was 21, my aunt retired, and I started a small business in TV and VCR repair, which when combined with my aunt's retirement, served us OK. She was unable to drive, and needed me for any errands, and any home maintenance, and all. And I was able to live in a nice big house, whereas if I tried it on my own, I'd have had to get a much smaller place, and she would have had to hire a maid or something. It just wouldn't have worked as well.

On the other hand, I know a man who is 48, and moved home when he broke up with his girlfriend, and he's just lying around the house all day smoking pot, and spending his parents' money, and making them miserable.

Charles

In Asian, Latin American, and African countries, it is common for kids to never leave their parents home.

I say that you are too old once you can provide for yourself effectively without your parents help. I left when I was seventeen years old because I know how to get a job, buy myself food, make appointments, use public transportation, and be a self-advocate despite having autism.

You can never be too old if you cannot provide for yourself. That is why a lot of people of all ages are moving back in with their parents during this economy.

A few tips.
- Don't find excuses - if somthing can be done today, it should.

- Drawers, bins, folders,boxes. Anything that keeps your appartment nice
and tidy is money well spent. Computers are a great way to organize documents, lectures etc. I only use paper for my printer.
- Print out assignments and keep them visible.


Before you go to sleep collect your clothes in a basket. Sort white and colored clothings choose a detergent that works with both white and colored fabric (preferebly a fluid). Find a day/or two a week that serves as your laundry day. Organize your clothes into categories (put them in drawers), all your socks should be identical. Change bedsheets every 14 days.

- Cook your own meals - always. Don't fall into the trap of buying fastfood because you don't feel like cooking. Find cheap, fast and healthy dishes that you like. Maybe eat certain dishes at destined week days. Buy in large quantities and buy food that is easily stored (like rice, pasta) Do the dishes while boilig/cooking. Do the dishes after eating. Limit yourself to using two or three cups and the same ammount of plates (that way you'll HAVE to do the dishes more frequently).

- As much as aspies don't like labels they are very usefull for organizing.
- No computertime/other interest until you've finished your daily chores/assignments.
- Make to do lists, keep things that you use often visible. (like keys close to the door).
- Go outside atleast once a day.

- Develop good bedtime routines. Read before you go to sleep (no tv/computer). Don't study in your beedroom.
- Be a perfectionist. If theres a spot on your oven, clean it up!

- Brush your teeth atleast twice a day (preferably after each meal), flush with fluor before going to bed.

- Check mail/mailbox after returning from home. Pay bills on time when received (through the internet). Take out the garbage before work/school. Clean/vacuum 2-3 times a week.

Make a budget, and stick to it! No impulse buys, and if you decide to buy something be prepared to make sacrifices. Be realistic, don't try to convince yourself that a purchase is justified it you know it's not.

Keep an open dialogue with your landlord. Make sure to inform him/her if theres something wrong with the appartment. Take photos of the appartment that can be used as evidence in future arguments. Know your rights.

I'm 23, and I've been living with my parents full-time since I graduated college last year. I have a strong feeling I might not live on my own for quite a long time. I'm not good with self-help skills like paying bills and doing laundry. Plus, I don't drive, so that inhibits me a lot.
-OddDuckNash99-

i am still living with my mom and step dad for the fact that i may not be ready for it yet. i can't afford it because were i live is a rural area and 5 miles to the main town and there is no public bus system. also i dont have a driver liscense. also were i live since it is a small town there is not that much jobs available. i have been think about looking for a cheap 50cc motor scotter to get to town. when i walked the 5 miles it took about 4 to 5 hours of walking. and here it is not safe to walk at night for here there is coyotes were i am

so i also say it depends on the situation

sorry for bad gammer and all that it is hard to do it on a phone

my parents' house was a bit of a revolving door... i moved out when i was 18 and moved back twice in the 3 years after that. but my intent was to be as independent as possible, because that was a goal for me. i didn't feel like i could really be 'myself' or get my life started until i got my own apartment.

at first, i was very lonely and called my mother every day. but i was not really in a healthy relationship with my parents, so it was much better for me when i moved to a completely different city.

i think my husband was happier with me once i had 'cut the apron strings' a bit after a few years, and i can understand that. he wanted to be in a relationship with an independent, strong individual. i was not independent or strong when i was living at home. i felt the same way about him. he was poor and couch-surfing when i met him, but he was on his way to being independent too, and i guess that was important to me.

but i understand each person's situation is different and each person has a different level of functioning and a different family or cultural background. this was just my own approach and my husband's priorities also.

It's more common for parent's kids to live with them into their 30s, and kids that were previously living away from home, coming back to roost with mom and dad. Because of Islamo-Fascism, politicians can no longer promise us dreams, just save us from nightmares.

I just got done watching The Power of Nightmares.

I loved the power of nightmares. I know he did two documentaries but i cant remember the name of the other thing. The bbc should put him on again.

While I did live on my own for two years when I was in grad school, I'm back at home at age 27 because I can't find a job