When you don't like your special interest??

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02 Oct 2010, 10:33 am

well couple but they didint bother me that much 8O


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02 Oct 2010, 11:12 am

All of my special interests are profoundly silly.

Science fiction. Cartoons. "The X-Files." Star Trek. Bah!!

I have the mind of a ten-year-old. It's like your brain "gets stuck" on something, like someone lit a match in your head and you can't let go until the flame goes out. Or the flame goes out too soon and you're left feeling bereft.

Anyway, I have no advice except just to accept it and roll with it. I don't apologize for my special interests because they're the only things in life that give me pleasure. Other people get to have friends, so I should be allowed to have Captain Picard!! ! Good luck.


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02 Oct 2010, 2:28 pm

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Last year (or perhaps even the year before that), I was obsessed with Asian Ball-Jointed Dolls (BJDs). I hated it because they're extremely expensive (they cost as much as, or more than, a new video game console). I knew I would never be able to get one, so I forced myself to quit obsessing over it. It still flares up every now and then though, much to my chagrin.


I like dolls, especially porcelain ones. I never could figure out what to do with them other than rearrange them and look at them, though.


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Yes. Recently I feel like I've lost interest in Tim Burton films - which is what I've been obsessed with since January. I could already tell that I was getting tired of Edward Scissorhands and Charlie and the Chocolate Factory, and the only reason my interest in Sweeney Todd stayed for as long as it did was because of Helena Bonham Carter's role as Mrs. Lovett.

But the one film that absolutely breaks my heart to lost interest in is Alice in Wonderland. It had so much sentimental value for me that I was certain I would be in love with it for years to come. But I had learned everything there was to learn about it, and one day when I woke up, my passion for it was gone. Just like that - an obsession that I expected to last for years was gone overnight, and its actual duration was only about half a year.


I feel nostalgia for some of my past interests that I had years ago. I think it's interesting that other people here have also had the experience of being "over" an interest before they really wanted to be.

This is kind of unrelated to the original question, but - I know it's not just people with AS/autism who get obsessed with certain things like anime or Star Trek. Is there a qualitative difference?



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02 Oct 2010, 2:45 pm

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This is kind of unrelated to the original question, but - I know it's not just people with AS/autism who get obsessed with certain things like anime or Star Trek. Is there a qualitative difference?


Good question. I believe the DSM criteria lists "intensity and focus" of your interest as the defining factor.

Luckily, my interests today aren't as "intense" as they were when I was a kid.


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02 Oct 2010, 10:57 pm

PangeLingua wrote:
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I lost interest in the special interest that got me my career. I'm a little panicked about it, I need it back to get my work done. Is it time for a new career or is it going to come back in time? I'm really not sure, but the clock is definitely ticking...stupid clock.


That would be extremely frustrating. I hope you are able to figure something out. Can I ask what the interest was?


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02 Oct 2010, 11:30 pm

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Luckily, my interests today aren't as "intense" as they were when I was a kid.


Neither are mine. When I was a child/teenager, my interests were very intense and lasted a long time because my life was very emotionally unstable during that time, and my interests were the only things that brought me a sense of stability and comfort. Now that I've reached a point in my life where everything is fairly stable and I'm comfortable with who I am, I've noticed that the intensity of my interests has gone way down and the focus of my interests has become more socially acceptable.

Please note that I don't mean to imply that all aspies with intense/unusual interests are in an emotionally unstable environment. I merely noticed that that seems to have been the case with me.