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Cassia
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13 Oct 2010, 10:35 pm

I've definitely responded to "Happy Birthday" with "Happy Birthday" too. (I think that may be fairly common?)

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13 Oct 2010, 10:49 pm

This was embarrassing when my husband told me this story and then I wasn't so embarrassed anymore after he told me he asked for my opinion.

My husband and I met online and we talked for three weeks before meeting up in person. We meet at StarBucks and I am sitting at a table with the laptop working on a story. My husband arrives and I see he is overweight. He asked me what I think of him and I say "You're fat" then I go "what?" when he had an expression on his face.

Flash forward two years later and he is telling me this story and I have no memory of it and I am laughing and shocked that I'd call him fat because it's so rude to do that. Then he tells me he asked me what I thought of him and I said "oh no wonder, you asked me for my opinion" and I was no longer shocked. But he told me I was brutally honest and most people wouldn't say it and I said again he asked and he told me most people wouldn't say it. Then I asked him what would they say instead and what is the correct answer to that question. He told me I was supposed to say "you're okay." I asked him how can I think he is okay if we just met? He laughed and told me it was part of the social rules when they ask and you say "you're okay."

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13 Oct 2010, 10:54 pm

Aimless wrote:

conundrum wrote:

Aimless wrote:

Me: We should get together for coffee sometime, after all I'm nobody and so are you.

Emily Dickinson reference?

I've actually never read her, so I don't know.

I'm Nobody! Who are you?
Are you – Nobody – too?
Then there's a pair of us?
Don't tell! they'd advertise – you know!

How dreary – to be – Somebody!
How public – like a Frog –
To tell one's name – the livelong June –
To an admiring Bog!

-Emily Dickinson

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13 Oct 2010, 10:54 pm

whitchry9 wrote:

anneurysm wrote:

raisedbyignorance wrote:

Just had one yesterday going on to today.

My mom for no reason whatsoever really got on me for not doing my own laundry last night. But how can they tell me to do laundry and then not tell me how to work the washer and dryer?

When I was in college, I had to learn on my own something that people have gotten on me in high school since I was living in the dorm. However the washers and dryers in the dorms were much more simpler and easier to operate as all I had to do was determine whether a piece of clothing was warm wash or cold wash according to the tags then keep the whites and colors separate.

However the washer at my parents house is a much more complex system with way too many controls and way too many variants of wash to choose from with no idea what it means. Instead of having hot, warm, or cold wash....the controls are more like cold-warm, warm-warm, warm-hot, cold-cold, and I'm going WTF? I tried to explain this to my family but they think I am full of it as usual but it's their own fault for NEVER teaching me how to use the washer.

It's quite Aspie because nothing is more irritating than being told to do something and then not having ANY understanding as to how you're supposed to do it.

I always get into that situation too: I hate being told to do something and then no one explicitly teaches me how to do it. My job at a coffee shop was exactly like this: they told me to toast some bread but not that it was only supposed to go in a particular way...and there were lots of details that i didn't know unless someone told me I was screwing up. Lots of questions were asked by me, and of course, everyone got annoyed that I somehow didn't know the rules for things. Well, I would know them if you actually told me them instead of sitting around waiting for me to mess up!

Washers and dryers are confusing though, each one you run into has a different set of rules and it's not like you'll ever find an instruction book anywhere so you often have to figure out how to work them yourself! It's so boggling!

This really bothers me. I can't do something without detailed instructions. Especially if it's something new. I need to know each specific step so I can make sure I get it right.
And I can't handle it when I'm supposed to figure these sorts of things out on my own.

I can totally relate. At my old job, my office clerk used to get mad at me when he give me vague instructions. When I ask him questions on how to do it, he tell me something like "How long have you been working here? You should know how to do this?" I always felt stupid for it and the fact I couldn't remember how to do something I was taught two months ago and then never had to do it again until two months later. So I stopped asking him and tried to figure it out on my own and then he would say to me if I have any questions, just ask. :roll:

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13 Oct 2010, 10:59 pm

Cassia wrote:

I've definitely responded to "Happy Birthday" with "Happy Birthday" too. (I think that may be fairly common?)

I've done that, too. Also, when I was a preteen, I got into the habit of saying "I love you," to my parents whenever I left them to go to school, and it became so automatic that I would sometimes say it to other people too, by accident, such as my teachers (including male ones ... a bit awkward). Don't know if that's aspie, though.

League Girl, when I was in school one time, doing my own work, a girl came up to me and showed me a picture she had done and asked me if I thought it was good. I said, "No." I couldn't understand why she got angry, when she had asked for my opinion and I had given it to her. Your story is funnier, but it just reminded me of that.

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14 Oct 2010, 4:09 am

PangeLingua wrote:

Aimless wrote:

conundrum wrote:

Aimless wrote:

Me: We should get together for coffee sometime, after all I'm nobody and so are you.

Emily Dickinson reference?

I've actually never read her, so I don't know.

Nice

She got me.

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14 Oct 2010, 5:11 am

On forums and Blogs I always get told I'm not On-Topic in discussions. However in my mind it seems totally relevant.

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15 Oct 2010, 11:31 pm

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Long, long ago a girl I was in bed with said "Turn Around" It turns out she wanted to do 69. But Aspie me rotated 180 degrees on my longitudal axis. That is Aspie literal mindedness at work.

ruveyn

This made me actually laugh out loud

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My diagnoses - social anxiety disorder and obsessive-compulsive disorder.

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15 Oct 2010, 11:34 pm

druidsbird wrote:

I was turning in a sick note to HR at work. When the HR guy held out his hand I got confused and thought he wanted to hold hands. I figured, "Erm, well... ok..." and grabbed his hand like a little kid. He shook my hand off angrily and told me "No, give me the papers." I just gave him the note and walked away.

Bahaha! I used to be so confused with hand signals for a while too and remember being in situations that were very similar to yours!

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16 Oct 2010, 12:03 am

redwulf25_ci wrote:

Cassia wrote:

I sometimes find myself getting muddled with politeness expressions like "please" and "thank you". It happened today. I was on campus at my university, and someone walked up to me and asked if I knew where a certain building was. I'd been there before, but was coming at it from a different angle than usual, so I paused a moment and said something like "I do, I just need to remember which one it is". Someone else must have told him/pointed it out to him, although I didn't see/hear, because he said "Oh, that's it, ok", and turned to head off. I said "Thank you", then realized he hadn't done anything for me so it really wasn't an occasion for me to say "thank you".

Reminds me of the time one of my cousins said "Happy Birthday" to me and I blankly replied "Happy Birthday". I blame it on my birthday being only eight days after Christmas.

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16 Oct 2010, 12:27 am

A few months ago, I had Work Experience, which I did at a medical centre. One time I was there, I got to work with people who operated X-rays for a few hours. We could hear a chainsaw outside, and one of the X-ray ladies said "there's someone out there having their leg amputated!" Everyone except me laughed. I wondered why they thought it was funny because I didn't think that having one's leg amputated was something to laugh about. I told the lady this, and she gave me a strange look and laughed even more. Then she told me it was a joke and there was nobody being amputated outside. They all probably thought I was ret*d after that

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16 Oct 2010, 12:59 am

Ha, I read all of these and I thought they were all reasonable things to think and it took me a minute to figure out why they were Aspie moments... They are all things I would have done.

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16 Oct 2010, 3:04 am

O God... some of the situations you described remind me of things that happned to me.

Just a few days ago I was washing my dishes in the sink, when some of my blockmates needed to go there. I let her do and afterwards said "Thank you" - and then remembered that she had been interupting me and therefor it was her turn to say "Thank you". Luckily she didn't seem to listen.

And a few years ago in arts class I accidently got my hair in my paint and some classmate pointed this out to me. I said "sorry", and she told me I didn't have to be sorry for something that I myself had done to myself. I knew that, but the answer came automatically...

I also need accurate instructions. One day my mother as at work and put a note on the table asking me to make pasta and tomato sauce. Pasta I knew, that was no problem, but my mother had NEVER told me how to make tomato sauce. I was really worried and looked up recipes on the internet, but they all included olive oil, which seemed wrong to me knowing that my mother always mad low-calorie food. In the end I got really desperate and decided just to try... but nevertheless I freaked out. I knew that I needed to add sugar, but I didn't know how much, and I knew that I should add salt, so I added both, and then tried the soup and knew that it didn't taste right but had absolutely know clue what I needed to add to make it taste right. And all the time I was crying and freaking out because I was so confused and didn't know what to do.
When my mother wnt home she was really surprised to see me so extremely upset. Turned out that the sauce only needed a little salt...

And one thing, although I don't know whether this is an aspie moment...
I was sitting in a café with two of my friends drinking hot chocalate, and they made jokes about how they were drinking the hot chocolate really slowly... "sip for sip", "little sip for little sip", "drop for drop"... I wanted to join in and said "molecule for molecule..."
And they freaked out, asking me how I could dare to talk about school... WTF?!

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16 Oct 2010, 11:26 am

I could pull out many, but just one that happened yesterday:

So in our relatively small yet peaceful college campus, there's this small piano room in the arts building, which essentially fits a grand piano, and not much else - it's called a practice room, but really, out of the only three buildings with ANY music instrument in them, it's one of them. There is no music program there, but that's not the point~

It's one of the rooms I spend the most time in since very few others there even like music. More time for me. So basically yesterday I inhabited the room from 10AM to Noon, just playing around, learning, writing, my typical stuff. The room wasn't the most well-lit, and the door was closed until someone out of nowhere opened it, and...

???: There's nobody here... (with a confused, unsure face, semi-smiling)

Me: Nobody... *awkward oblivious smile : D*

???: (facial expression didn't change) (leaves)

Then afterwards, I noticed how awkward that ended up to be. I looked like someone who would burst out in "MUAHAHAHA" with an eerily happy smile, any second. D:

My conversations usually end up weird like that... I'm not really conscious of what I'm saying in conversations. Speaking tends to forced into autopilot, or else I'll freeze or take a long time to actually think about what to say.