PunkyKat wrote:
I was often acussed of being rude as a child and even as an adult people sometimes think I am rude but I have no idea I sounded rude. I'm not excusing myself because sometimes I have been downright nasty and was fully aware I was being nasty but it was usually because the person who the rudeness was directed at had been mean or rude to me before, even if not at that momment. But most of the time I was considered rude, I had no idea I was being that way.
As an adult I try to be nice and only be rude and nasty if someone targets me first but for the most part I try to abide Thumper's mother's policy, "If you can't say anything nice, than don't say anthing at all." This applies on the internet as well unless someone asks me about their picture or video than I point out what I do like even if it is just one minuscule deail they they probably overlooked.
Yeh, every now and again I can be like that too. If someone makes me mad, and I respond, it's not so pretty. But, I'm never like that any other time.
It can be nasty, but for me I see it as a lack of the ability to moderate more than anything else. Although it's good to be conscious of the fact that we can sound a little harsh at times, I still think that's different to being an a-hole.
And, the thing is, your propensity to be really honest will be appreciated by some. I have friends who think it's awesome when I'm really honest (took me a while to find some of them, but they're there).
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