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ApsieGuy
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02 Nov 2010, 11:01 pm

menintights wrote:
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I noticed more confidence the more muscle I put on.


Which is dumb. Confidence should come from self-acceptance, not from how you think other people perceive you. It sounds like you're using your appearance to make up for whatever qualities you think you lack, which not only makes you look insecure but which also is exactly something bullies do.

EDIT: I used to hang around a forum where there was this guy who always managed to mention his six-pack and his master's degree in every post he made. Should you ever find this high-paying job you seem to think will solve all your problems, please do yourself a favor and don't do anything similar. We'd feel embarrassed for you.[/quote]


Good for him for showing off all his hard work. I hope it was a masters in something practical.


Please link me to it. :lol:



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02 Nov 2010, 11:02 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
personally, i think the best revenge is success.

i deal with work bullies, and i have some strategies. one of them is to be so incredibly good at my job that they look like jealous as*holes if they try to undermine me.

another strategy is to tell myself fantastic things inside my own head whenever i am in the vicinity of a bully. it is fake and silly, but it boosts my self-confidence so i become less of a target. i won't tell you the things i say to myself, because they are personal and directed inwardly, but it serves to create a bulletproof aura.

i also try to make connections with as many people as possible, as these friends or acquaintances also become allies. but i struggle with this one the most.



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03 Nov 2010, 6:42 am

Although much easier said than done I think all that is needed is a retaliation the first time you are bullied. Give some back. Hit them if necessary. Even if they hit you back and you start fighting. That is better than doing nothing because the bully will think twice in future. Let them know as early as possible that you will give them problems if they give you problems. This may work in school but not in the workplace unfortunately.



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03 Nov 2010, 6:53 am

success doesn't require brains, brawns, or power. some craftiness at using the tools at your disposal is a good idea, but that's all. if you work to change yourself so that you are no longer a victim, the bullies can become pretty unsuccessful.


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03 Nov 2010, 7:47 am

[quote="hyperlexian"]personally, i think the best revenge is success.

I agree Hyperlexian, the best strategy

The best revenge is success.

I am learning how to look at bullying as a promt to encourage me to do better. I am training myself to use their attacks to my advantage.So when they bully me I laugh to myself because I have directed that energy to a positive, rather than let the anxiety lift my cortisol levels. To me it is the ultimate revenge to be a better person than them. Then you know that they show themselves up for what they really are all by themself. You know if thats what they need to do to gain respect they sure don't deserve it. Seeing them for what they are then you can laugh behind your face. Ha Ha


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