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That's one of the problems with such an approach. Some bullies love a challenge and will zone in on someone actively fighting off other bullies. Their reasoning might be something along the lines of "So he/she thinks he/she's tough, huh? We'll see about that".

Basically I agree with ya lecks, I view morality as relative, its subjective because all it is in the end in an oppinion one holds on what is right and what is wrong. And I am a firm believer of the whole sometimes the only way to fight "evil" is via "evil" or something along those lines. Ends justify the means.

Also, sometimes the only way to send a message across is to be forceful. Some may say violence is always wrong, but what if Diplomacy doesnt do a damn thing? What then?

Plus I have done some good with my tendencies in the whole scheme of things anyways. This was back when I was in school and should still be relevant IMO. After giving a bully a beatdown, he actually had come to respect me a bit more, we got along, and actually ended up trying to stop other bullies as well.

Also you don't necessarily HAVE to be violent to stand up for yourself either, yet so many people make that assumption that to stand up is to be "violent" and commit a "wrong". Sometimes you have to learn to assert your will and not be afraid to do what you have to do in order to gain respect. You don't back the f**k down like a coward, that just makes you look even more weak, which yeah society still follows natural selection. Be weak and you are just prey, plain and simple. Yes, I know that I believe in social darwinism, even though people may view it as wrong. Regardless, its still a fact about human nature.

Thats the thing, you have to also be careful to pick the right fights. It ended up working for me because of my stature as well as the fact that said fight was in front of the whole damn school basically. Yeah, I got 3 days of suspension for it, but it really didn't bother me because of the end result. Im not trying to encourage violence, but oftentimes its the only way to even send a message across to certain people. and as I said in the post above, you don't necessarily have to fight, you just gotta throw your will around and assert yourself so you dont look like prey.

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I'm beginning to think so...

Now don't get me wrong, no-one is going to feel sorry for a bully that gets a beating - but resorting to violence is a rather short-sighted solution. You could be the toughest person in your school / college / etc, if somebody wants to pick on you they will.

As mentioned upthread, the risk of being attacked can only add to the thrill of teasing somebody. At the end of day you have to outsmart them, make fun of them, make them look stupid. If you can't do this then it's best to accept it and take whatever they're saying on the chin - or get other people to back you up

My parents tried to get the school, board to end the bullying but they just turned a blind eye or blamed me for the bullying.

It would be really cool if schools started taking away privileges from other students, such as the following: Perhaps the principal could make an announcement. "If I hear one more report of a bullying episode, there will be no more school outings, or school dances', (or some other opportunity that will affect the majority of students) The message being given here, would be that if people want to act like savages, they shouldn't have any privileges. Also, this would use the herding tendency to an advantage; people would not be motivated to bully, if they knew that others would get on their cases for ruining stuff for everyone else.

Its not the answer but it feels so good to have a bully back down or have a look of terror in his eyes when you choke him to near unconsiousness. For every bully you beat the s**t out off you might be saving another autistic from being bullied by him. He might think twice about attacking someone if he gets his ass handed to him.

If we had that attitude durring WW2 we would all be speaking German right now and we would have fewer Slavic and Jewish people running around today. Sometimes you have to make a stand and do your best against a bully even if means you get you ass handed to you.