Maolcolm wrote:
I don't think all Aspies have similar features by any means. Some may do, but not all.
I think there may be a for some Aspies having a certain look in their eyes, but this may just be my own perception.
I was always told I had very 'gentle' eyes, which is probably more noticeable in a man. I could never see anything in my eyes. I don't even like making contact with myself in a mirror, and I see nothing there. I don't make eye contact with people generally, although I do look at people sometimes when they aren't looking at me, but what little I know of eyes makes me think NT eyes look a little different, and often scarier, IMO.
My theory on why people might see what they call "gentleness" in many Aspies eyes is the difference in mental focus. My feeling is that Aspies are far less likely to be mentally socially "strategizing" in a "dog eat dog" way, less likely to be examining clothing for status and making judgments, less likely to be fighting for a place in a social "pecking order" or mentally looking to elevate themselves or put others down. We're mostly just thinking about our interests or trying hard to comprehend NTs, rather than socially "compete". Does that make sense?
Perhaps NT's can see this lack of this competitive egotistical agenda in some Aspies eyes and see it as "gentleness"?
Just a theory.
I dunno.
Official DX and all here but Ive been more or less descriped as one who wields a piercing, discriminating stare like no other. I do have my "stoner look" moments though.