Do people think you don't know what your talking about?

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Nah, people know that i know what i am talking about.

But ive noticed that sometimes conversations are not about information or arguments but about irrational emotional stuff. I used to always react rationally towards that and all the conversations f****d up like that because i didnt understand them or wasnt talking about what they were talking about. I couldnt catch the hidden meanings and they couldnt pronounce the hidden meanings either, but it was ofcourse always my fault. Apparantly other people have a hiddenmeaning detector in their (subconscious) mind, i dunno.

It's all that. When I was working; some of my coworkers would have problems doing their jobs & I would offer suggestions to try & help but they wouldn't listen. Sometimes my dad has problems using certain technology; like screws-up a setting on the TV or the satellite radio & when I try to offer to help he won't let because I wouldn't be able to fix it either. Sometimes people are having debates about something like current events & they think i don't know anything bout that stuff. Other times my parents are talking about doing housework & I try to offfer an idea about a problem & they don't want to hear it. I feel lots of people talk down to me & treat me like I'm a little kid. My parents complain a lot about how I'm to dependent & how I don't think for myself but they don't give me a chance to be independent or anything because they complain because I do things differently than the way they do it. I'm much more capable & smarter than people think I am but I don't have a chance to prove it

I have this problem. People often assume I'm stupid until they actually listen to me. My college classmates assuming a bureaucratic mistake had been made when it was announced I was graduating a year early magna cum laude; strangers talking to me in a loud, condescending voice like I'm a child. All my life, and so it happens that in casual conversation with people who don't know me, they dismiss anything I say about politics, art, history, etc. People also assume, whenever they find out an interest of mine, that I'm a beginner and they will teach me about it, even though it's usually something I have years of experience in.

It's really frustrating and it's not as if I present as bubbly or timid. People who actually listen to me, respect me. But it's just amazing how many people who've never thought twice about say, insects or the Roman Empire, willl assume that they must know more than me, who's studied it. I think it's partly because I'm short, conventionally feminine and curvy , which a lot of people read as "bimbo" and also because I've been told I have a very open, childlike quality. It's sad how many people think a sneery, cynical personality connotes intelligence and knowledge.

In your case - it could be many things. I've noticed that many people react more to delivery than content, so they could just be dismissing you based on the fact you don't communicate in their accepted way. Also, once people pigeonhole you a certain way, they'll dismiss any input that contradicts that assessment.

That makes a lot of sense. My parents often accuse me of complaining or trying to argue with em lots of times I'm just making a comment or trying to ask a question. Lots of others have accused me of being negative, rude & cynical about things when I'm NOT trying to be.
Ironically the psychs I saw thought I was too intelligent & that I communicated too well verbally to have AS or anything on the autism spectrum. I feel like lots of people view me as being mentally retorted thou; I was called that a lot by my classmates & my mom sometimes even ask me if I'm retorted

My sister's catch phrase for me. My mum used to think I didn't understand certain things after I was diagnosed. But yeah my sister just uses that phrase when she's confused by what I say. I know what I'm talking about because I research things thoroughly and I'm well aware about the intention of others now.

Actually, I've never been told that. Maybe they think that, but I've never been told that. Perhaps I'm convincing.

People either think I am stupid, or they think I am almost a genius. I am neither. I am of somewhat above-average intelligence.
I hope this makes it as difficult for them as their preconceptions make it for me. If only they would stay in their own trees and let me stay in mine, maybe they would not try to eat my bananas, or accuse me of trying to eat theirs.

Yes. Often people think I do not know what I am talking about until they find out for themselves I sure do know what I am talking about and that I am a hell of a lot smarter than they are. Of course, this does not tend to make me popular. It is not that I am a know-it-all. It is that I am a know-more-than-you.

ruveyn

That happens quite a bit. Only I've found when people say I don't know what I'm talking about is when they don't know what I'm talking about.