How many of you come off as a douche

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I usually hear that I'm too nice also. Although some people say I come off as guarded or emotionless. Now that surprises me- I'm definitely not emotionless.

I used to regularly come off as a douche by saying inappropriate things without realizing they were inappropriate. Example: My band was playing a gig one time, and I made a Facebook event for it and invited a bunch of people. Later that day I was talking to this girl about it. She had put "Maybe" and I said to her, "Most people who put "Maybe" end up not showing up. That's what they do when they know they're not gonna go but don't want to be impolite." I meant it as a joke, but she interpreted it as me thinking she wasn't going to make an effort to show up and being sarcastic about it.

I ended up unintentionally coming off as an even bigger douche at the gig, but that's a different story.

I'm not sure what that word is supposed to mean (beyond the literal definition) and as far as I know, no one's ever called me that. I have a list of names I've been called, as I would imagine anyone might. If that one's on your list, acknowledge it and move past it. Does it really matter what other people think? Not in the long run.

I have been told that because I laugh at other people's misfortunes and at inappropiate things that I am a douche for doing it. I also like to screw over people who have done me wrong which has led to me to be called a douche bag. When I worked at a resteraunt I used my senority to take people's vaction time from them if they screwed with me. It gave me some peace when my tormentors needed to be somewhere on a certain date so they would stay away from me. Our time cards had our first name's intial and then our last name. My first name begins with a D so they would say the D on my time card stood for douche bag.

I'm pretty sure the term is only applied to guys, never to girls, right?

Aside from that, I'm also not too clear on the meaning... is it just the new word for jerk/dick/as*hole? Or is there some difference?

I remember reading somewhere that guys who pop the collars on their polo shirts are douches. So does it mean "rich/preppy as*hole"? Or what?

Assuming that these terms are all basically synonymous, I guess I come off as one a lot, just because of people's reactions to me - not first reactions, but over time. I don't know why this is, but perhaps it's because I try to be "friendly", but it's not my natural instinct (that would be to avoid people and just read something) so maybe I can't keep up this charade, and when people see the inconsistency, it pisses them off? Or maybe it's that I really don't know how to be normal/friendly and do a terrible job of it, thus pissing people off? I don't know.

If I come off as a douche, it's probably because I am

Sometimes I do come off as a total b***h but most of the time I'm happy, bubbly and such. ^.^

I come off as shy or awkward, and sometimes as irritable and controlling, but not a douche or a b***h.

I'm somewhere inbetween annoying and obnoxious...apparently.

Oh! Oh! I have a list of names....oh wait...it's not that kind of thread. Never mind.

Usually I get as*hole or bastard as opposed to douche. I could care less, I'm not mean enough.