Anyone else find NT's predictable?

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Difficult to answer.

I mostly find them unpredictable, but later upon reflection their behaviour becomes clearer. I think the unpredictability is due to my impaired mental processing, my inability to think on my feet in real time.

In some ways they are, in others they catch me completely by surprise. It varies a lot.

NTs are very predictable to me, exept when their reaction is caused by an honest feeling, then Im mostly surprised.

I say no because if NTs were so predictable how come we cant read them very well? If they were so predictable then we should be able to work their system and get the reactions we want, shouldnt we? Idk if u guys can do that but I cant. While many NT behaviors are patterned, you really cant predict how a person might react(or I cant) unless I know them well. Sometimes I will play situations out in my head, and a lot of times they dont play out the way I predicted.

In some ways you could say so, but not as predictable as those with an ASD. People will react in an overall average way, even more true in an individual you know better. AS individuals don't always react in the average way, but individually I'm going to guess it's even more strict on how they react to the same situation over and over again.

I'll clarify my opinion.

I see pattern behaviour in not just cognitive observation but also because I have a great extent of empathy which had by accident. I got this because of treatment for brain tumors where one is in the left frontal lobe and one at the brainstem.

This article explains the phenomenon:
http://journals.lww.com/cogbehavneurol/ ... tal.2.aspx

The treatments where radiotherapy and chemotherapy (I explained this more thorough in other posts)
Also I hav emotional incontinence (mainly mood orientated, for example I feel sad or very happy for no apperent reason from time to time) which I haven't got entirely under control yet, up until this point I can't fully stop feeling others feelings (link).

I've gained a overwhelming empathy I never had before because of this situation (took years to be able to handle it, also explained in other posts), although in the time before I got this (before sixteenth birthday) I had a very basic empathic ability and trouble verbalising my thoughts and feelings. I also had the similar problems most of the people describe here - people all just didn't make sense to me.

The point I'm trying to make here is that for me there is pattern behaviour because I count the feelings and emotions (myself, others, the general atmosphere) in the equation. I have been trying on- and offline to people who have challenges with this how this works. Not getting empathy is like missing a sensory organ, it's ok as long as everybody in your enviroment either doesn't have it and/or accepts it.

The plusses in not having or atleast having empathy to a lesser extent means that energy is spent on other parts of the body and mind, for example your interests and knowledge.
I can't really say if the comparison of people who are blind or deaf that have their other senses enhanced but it might have been researched.

I would like to express that not having any empathy isn't wrong, some people just don't have it or have it to a lesser extent for some reasons.
As a workaround you could try theater acting to learn more about the pattern behaviour.

If you have questions, please do!
Hope it helps

Cheerfully,
Wallourdes

The question is neither here nor there really. Everyone can predict people they know. My friend, for example, criticises people a lot (she's one of those people) and each time I see her I've got to remember not to say too much because she starts lecturing. Does that count as being able to predict other people? Because I'm really good at it.

NTs are completely predictable to me when I am removed from the situation, as in a story or a situation that is explained to me. I can read that sort of thing like a book.
When I am put into the situation, I am completely lost. I can barely think and have a conversation at the same time. i have to go away and think about it to understand anything that has happened. I also have absolutely NO idea how anyone perceives me, ever. It's my own interactions with NTs I don't understand.