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emtyeye
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19 Dec 2010, 5:35 pm

Try living alone if possible to see if that helps.
If you can talk to your family in a calm moment, and if they are such as who can comprehend another's efforts for self-improvement, then tell them that you are working on ways to change how YOU respond to things and agree on a single word or hand signal that anyone can use that means "This encounter/conversation is over for right now, starting right now". Use it IMMEDIATELY when things start to get hot, then find some physical activity that's SAFE and helps you cool down/ shift your perspective: get a punching bag, go for long, fast walks and talk it out in your head, work in the garden, whatever works for you that you can do at any minute. Make kindness, to yourself and others, your default outlook. Then when everybody is calm you can try again. Don't give up. It's an endless process not a sudden destination.


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19 Dec 2010, 6:10 pm

My life is just riddeld with bad luck though cause i am virtually the only person in my family to have AS so no wonder i am prone to agressive outbursts and arguing.



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22 Dec 2010, 6:12 pm

Jamesy wrote:
Litteraly 20 minutes ago i was downstairs. i had a bad evening because my paretns friends were not very friendly to me and that put me in a rotten mood. whats worse is that becasue i only care about myself my own friends.

more to the point i was downstairs and my mum acted a bit cold to me i followed her upstairs and got in a manic state and started shouting complaining how she does not always treat me well. i stupidly walked into my parents bedroom and my dad flipped out. My dad grabbed and tried to get me out of the bedroom but i pushed him and he wnet flying and collided with my mother and she kinda hit her head on this cabinet. god if my mother was seriously injured i would have been in so much trouble, all she had was a bruise on her head though. my dad flipped out and punchd me on the head for doing that to my mother.

what am i going to do the issue i have got so much pent up fustation about how my friends and others treat me that it is causing a seveare disfuncition in my behaviour.

what can i do to control this? I am getting dangerously close to get into trouble with the law.

I think i might have AS

My parents are both in thier early 50's.

my mother was a bit drunk at the time because she was drinking with friends round our house.

what is disturbing about me is my general unwillingless to confrom to society and its rules.........



Get some counselling, seriously.


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23 Dec 2010, 5:43 am

Jamesy wrote:
more to the point i was downstairs and my mum acted a bit cold to me i followed her upstairs and got in a manic state and started shouting complaining how she does not always treat me well. i stupidly walked into my parents bedroom and my dad flipped out. My dad grabbed and tried to get me out of the bedroom but i pushed him and he wnet flying and collided with my mother and she kinda hit her head on this cabinet. god if my mother was seriously injured i would have been in so much trouble, all she had was a bruise on her head though. my dad flipped out and punchd me on the head for doing that to my mother.

what am i going to do the issue i have got so much pent up fustation about how my friends and others treat me that it is causing a seveare disfuncition in my behaviour.


You do not say if you are in education, or where you live, but for many people I think an incident like this is an opportunity to seek government-funded support. I think your parents should call the police and file a report, with photographic evidence of the injuries and damage. The police will refer the incident on to social or psychiatric services. They might choose to prosecute - if so then it is a good time to learn that your behaviour is out of control and completely unacceptable in any home. Your parents must be terrified to live with you in this state.

Take the support that is available.