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I say thanks...
to be polite and/or to get people off my back. 72%  72%  [ 33 ]
only when I mean it. 28%  28%  [ 13 ]
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30 Dec 2010, 1:43 am

Yeah, I don't think scripted responses are insincere, but they wouldn't exist at all without the scripts...at least for me.



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30 Dec 2010, 2:16 am

I say thanks to be polite of course. I mean, why not? I'm a nice person, I can be sarcasticly mean, but I'm still nice. And I feel that it's just a good gesture and impression on others. I don't want people thinking "Boy, that young man was quite rude." about me.


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30 Dec 2010, 4:47 pm

E-Wreck wrote:
I say thanks to be polite of course. I mean, why not?

Why not indeed. I do understand that, but the 'fun' starts for me when instead of just looking someone in the eye and sincerely saying "thanks", I seize up in an internal conflict about how it might be perceived or understood, or whether I'll manage to say it without stumbling.
This happens automatically within the fraction of a second it takes to realise that I'm about to be expected to become "sociable", in the same reflexive way that someone might shield their eyes if a gust of wind blew some grit.


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30 Dec 2010, 4:58 pm

I think both.


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30 Dec 2010, 6:45 pm

I use to say "Thanks" all the time to be nice and all of that but I became tired of being the nice one all the time and it seems like people want to take advantage of me more often if they think I'm super nice. I really pay mind to when I say "Thanks or Thank You" to someone. Now, I just say "Thanks or Thank You" when I sincerely mean it. Sometimes, I can say it in a hostile way if someone has offended me. But if I have no reason to say it, I won't.

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30 Dec 2010, 6:50 pm

I say 'thanks' and 'you're welcome' when I really mean it, because if I try to say like that when I don't mean it, it will come out that way.


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31 Dec 2010, 6:53 am

I tend to view social interactions like networ transactions. And, hey, if I am the only Linux machine in a network of AppleTalk speaking Macs (they cannot be running Snow leopard for that btw) or IPX/SPX-using DOS boxen. I need to pretend to follow the protocol. :wink:


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