I put up with unreal levels of hostility

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I'm going to go out on a limb here and suggest that if 95% of the people around you sniff and cough when you are around, and it is not cold and flu season or allergy season where you are, there may be something you are doing inadvertently that is triggering that behavior. Do you wear perfume or strong-smelling deodorant or perfumed detergent or fabric softener? The scent may be too strong and may be irritating their throats and noses, or it may be overwhelming to them. Conversely, if you don't use deodorant or bathe daily, you may have an odor that you are unaware of - scent is a sense that acclimates very quickly to the presence of a familiar odor, and it can be difficult to tell when you might smell bad to others.

Have you tried asking a family member or other person you can trust about this?

There is always the chance that people are just being rude or hostile, but honestly, it probably wouldn't be 95% of them if that were the case.

Thing with this train of thought is that you're forgetting there's such a thing as chance. You don't know for certain you wont get a job or end up living alone... because there is a chance, a GOOD chance, that out there, there is a guy that is looking for someone just like you to be happy.

Permanent job is also something nobody has guaranteed. Since you're finishing university I would say that it is your own efforts that will decide what job you get (and you will get one) and if that is the job where you will be happy in ( a career? job in the field you studied in hopefully!).

Suicide takes away the chance ...and does so based on what you imagine may happen while being in a depressive/angry mood. Its like not buying an ice cream because it might melt before it reaches your tongue.



It can be at times.

... but sh** is also fertilizer.

kitchy21: I'm experiencing the same thing. There is no point in trying to explain this to people who don't suffer from it. They just won't get it and it's understandable. This thing is beyond comprehension (mine for sure)
I agree. It won't be possible to live too long like this. But for now I'm trying to solve this. I have some energy left. Energy is the keyword by the way kitchy21 are you still there?

I think I get what you mean by the coughing thing and I don't think its specific to aspies. Its seems to happen when someone new talks with a group of friends who have known each other a long time. Its just a subtle way of saying "this person is not one of us". I don't think it means you can't become friends with them in the future.