Aspie Living Alone = Disaster?

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I lived alone for a year and a half. I did fine and I liked coming home to my own mess and to the way I left things than other peoples messes. My parents lived down the road from me so I would go down to their place and have dinner with them so I didn't have to worry about cooking or food choices or what I eat.

My parents helped when I needed it and then I was ready to move away. I didn't need them psychically anymore. Now they want to move back to where I am living and my dad wants my husband and I and our baby to live with them.

I had pets too but haven't had any since 2007 when I moved. Now my cat is dead and I got rid of my dog since my parents already had five other dogs and I didn't think it be fair for them to have to take care of my dog since I didn't know how long it be before I have pets again so I told the they can get rid of her and they did. Hopefully she has a good home. My parents also got rid of their Jack Russell they had and I had for a few months to a guy who was very lonely after losing his wife.

I think it would be a disaster because Aspies often get preoccupied by their special interests and lose sense of time.

I think it depends on the person. After learning how to be alone, but not lonely, I realized that I would much, much rather live by myself than with anyone else.

I'm equally content by myself or with close friends. I have lived on my own before but currently live with a roommate. Prior to moving in last summer, I would have called him my best friend. Now I can't stand being around him much. It's pretty much destroyed our friendship. The thing is, in the Army I had several different roommates over the years and never had these kinda issues. Come the end of my current lease I will go back to living on my own and forever forgo roommates unless somewhere down the road I end up in a serious relationship with a woman and we move in together. I think the Apies who have the greatest difficulty living alone are those who's executive function is the most impaired. While mine's not the greatest, it's enough that I am capable of self-sufficiency.

I prefer not living alone, and of course since I'm married, the two of us is a perfect household. I get uneasy if we have any overnight company for more than a couple days, as it disrupts my daily activities. But on the other hand, I don't want to get to be an old hermit, or force my wife to not have friends. I have lived alone from time to time, and I find that I miss having someone to talk with, etc.

As far as practicality, I have no problem keeping house & home alone, but it's lonely when my wife is gone for a few days to go camping with her horse riding friends, etc. If anything, I'd think that Aspies might do better than some NTs living alone, as we tend to do things in a very routine and orderly manner. At least speaking for myself, I prefer do to all my own laundry and housekeeping, and in fact my wife wants to hire a maid, and I don't want a maid. She thinks it's not fair for me to do much of the housekeeping, because she doesn't like it herself (although she can do a great job). I like to do it, and I don't think a maid would do as good a job, when it's not her own home, and I don't like my stuff messed with. Nobody has touched my laundry since I was about 7, and I'm very meticulous about it.

I probably rambled off-topic, but the bottom line in my opinion, is that an Aspie can live alone or with a household, as well as anyone else should be able to.

Charles

I like vetwithAS' point about executive function.

And kx250rider's point about having routines while living alone vs living with others.

Think he meant introversion as in being happy alone rather than introversion as in always needing to recharge after social gatherings. Not everyone uses that word the same.

I have lived on my own for 17yrs now though, I did have to live with my mom for a short duration due to some health which, are now under better maintenance.Yes, living on your own can be difficult.All people have his/her own expectations of what they would like to be in terms of lving scenaios..Actually, I had wanted to be part of a living environment where many friends shared a home but, since there are no real friends in my life that idea was scratched.These days, I do fairly well as living on one's own not only requires a great amout of social skills but, personal health and wellbeing abilities too.Lastly I think that if one is able to sustain his/herself in an indepented living arrangement I can't see how there would be any difficulties..

I don't have much else to say, but hope this has been helpful to you?

Generally if you go into ANY situation, especially living on your own saying it's going to be a disaster, it will be a disaster.

Living on your own has enough challenges, but I manage to cope and socialize to balance out the lonely downtimes. Living with people also presents a unique set of challenges. You can get used to both fairly easily.