Son spends too much time on the computer?

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I don't think you should switch to dial up or ban him from using the computer after a certain time.
Instead plan other activities that he can do. I suppose doing a variety of things is important for a young boy's development.
If he is barely eating or exercising then I can see how it is a problem.

He sounds like a little genius. You should encourage him but not for the hacking part. You need to calmly tell him that it's not good.

But if you just try to limit his time on the internet without telling him it will cause problems.

I think saying a child spends too much time on the computer can be put side to side with my parent's friends saying i spent too much time in books and not enough socializing when i was a child. The only difference being that on the computer , if an idea or interesting question suddently pops in your head, you can have your answer in seconds, thus learn what you want to learn much faster.
My son is a bit like yours. If he wants a proper answer, he googles it. Generally to prove me wrong. If he wants to learn kung fu, he goes to youtube and types in "kung fu lessons beginners". He tried to apply for an online graphic design course in a US college. He learns english through "super mario walkthroughs" which are generally done in english and full of bad bad language ... (we're french).Then i correct the bad words when he speaks english to me. I know everything he does on the computer, and that's enough for me. Even the incidents like the " i just wanted to know what "saw" was about" one led us to look into special effects for movies. I dfon't think the " computers are bad" myth was really thought through.

First LOL @ him hacking the computers in kindgergarden (thumbs up too)

Second, I will take a stance a bit different from many on here. I wonder how many of the folks telling you to leave him alone have truly productive careers and happy life/lifestyle.

One thing I have learned (albiet very late in life) is that I need balance in my life. (This was before I knew I had ASD) WhenI I hit my 40s I made myself turn off my big obsession (computers) and picked up the classical guitar to force a right brained activity. I also forced myself to find a sport that I could do to get physical exercise and I learned about nutrition to learn about being healthy from the inside out.

And with these decisions, in that decade of my life, my life turned around. I became less rigid in my thinking, less black/white and became a "softer" person. My anxiety went down tremendously and my happiness levels went up. Belive it or not, even though I spent less time obsessing about my job, I became a thousand times more productive at my job.

Temple Grandin says it and I back her 100%. We need to find balance and limit our obsessions. 1-2 hours per day for any obsession will promote growth in a healthy way. The rest of our time should be spent living and experiencing the world. There are a million other things to do on this planet than that one thing you are obsessing over. Find balance and unlock true hapiness.