where to for my aspie dad and me?

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thanks LeeJosepho, mommyjones, MrXxx and alone,
Your advice is wonderful because I have felt very pent up and frustrated with this situation for a long time and havent had anyone to discuss it with - I have wanted to respect Dad's feelings and not discuss it with other family members while he is in ignorance of the whole deal.
It really helps to speak to some people who can see my dillemmas!

Yes mum is a good place to start, I can only aspire to the level of patience, calm and unflappability with which she soothes all the household fractions - I try to constantly remind myself that dad doesnt deliberately want to annoy me, and that his transgressions on my personal space are unintentional etc etc, but I admit often I just get plain cranky and fed up, and have to go away to cool off.

So yes, your advice is true, that I best direct my energy into learning ways to cope and restrain my own irritations, and let dad pursue his own self development on whatever level he wants to. The idea of giving him a book to read did cross my mind, there is one called An Asperger Marriage, which pretty much nailed dads disgnosis for me. I guess everyone here has had that experience, of discovering a book or story of someone else with Apergers and getting that AH-HA! thats it! kind of recognition. Spooky isnt it.