15 Feb 2011, 6:53 pm
MidlifeAspie wrote:
syrella wrote:
Sounds pretty jaded to me. 
If you love someone, a diagnosis shouldn't make a difference.
Also... simply saying that 80% of relationships end after a diagnosis... is that in comparison to if a diagnosis hadn't been received? Because I don't see how they can quantitatively measure that and make comparisons. Relationships will naturally end on their own, even without help. It could be that someone with AS is even more vulnerable to rocky times in the world of love and dating. That would be my take on it, more than simply the diagnosis itself.
Speaking from my personal experience, I told my boyfriend that I said I might have it. His response? "Bring it up with your therapist. Either way, it doesn't change anything. I still love you."
If you love someone, a diagnosis shouldn't make a difference. Also... simply saying that 80% of relationships end after a diagnosis... is that in comparison to if a diagnosis hadn't been received? Because I don't see how they can quantitatively measure that and make comparisons. Relationships will naturally end on their own, even without help. It could be that someone with AS is even more vulnerable to rocky times in the world of love and dating. That would be my take on it, more than simply the diagnosis itself.
Speaking from my personal experience, I told my boyfriend that I said I might have it. His response? "Bring it up with your therapist. Either way, it doesn't change anything. I still love you."
Yes. I do not at all recommend the book, I am just pointing out where the statistic came from. The author bases all her findings on her own marriage and 12 couples she interviewed. I think she might actually hate her husband and the advice she keeps repeating is that you shouldn't feel bad if you leave your husband with AS because it probably won't work out anyway.
Wow. That sounds remarkably... unhelpful.
15 Feb 2011, 6:57 pm
Indeed. And this was the first book I bought for my wife after I was diagnosed. She read it while I read Atwood's Complete Guide and after we finished and switched out I asked her to please forget everything she just read 
15 Feb 2011, 7:03 pm
MidlifeAspie wrote:
Indeed. And this was the first book I bought for my wife after I was diagnosed. She read it while I read Atwood's Complete Guide and after we finished and switched out I asked her to please forget everything she just read
I can definitely see why. Well, that is one book I won't be buying. Thanks for the warning!
15 Feb 2011, 7:05 pm
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