Are you currently in a long term romantic relationship?

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Well internet polls have outrageous selection bias, a poll should be done more out of curiousity than expectingg a concrete result.

Married in 1983.

Still going ...

I've had way too many relationships, the tricky part for me is working out when I shouldn't get into one. I'm hopeful that I can work my current one out, he's undiagnosed, a firts for me - it's taking a lot more work "behind the scenes" than any of the others which is putting a massive strain on me, but out front, the time we spend in each other's company is unquestionably the best quality and happiest I've ever had.

I'm a diagnosed female, and have been with my partner for almost 8 years, living together for the past 6. I believe my sweetheart has many aspie traits, and we are happy. Messy and unorganized, but happy

almost two years now, and i love him more than ever. hes perfect for me <3

I was in a relationship with a neurotypical girl for 4 months. She is very demanding by nature, can't sit still, but is honestly the best friend I've ever had. She's a great person, excellent mother (no kids with me), and I'd be lost without her. We are still very good friends. She didn't want to continue with a relationship because I was not romantic enough and kind of boring, which is true. I honestly tried, but it really was exhausting. We had some great moments together, and I still love her to death.

Before that I was with one other girl, but she was kind of odd (I suppose I have a neurotypical view of people) and we tried to have a relationship about 3 times. She didn't want to get serious, she was difficult to deal with, and said I was boring. I knew there was something odd about her, but looking back I couldn't tell if she was on the spectrum or not, I doubt she was. She was very spontaneous, which she complained that I wasn't, and that I was boring. She was extremely goofy, didn't take criticism well but said she never cared what other people thought. Was hard to figure her out.

Before that I had a small fling with a girl when I was in college. But all through my life, because of my anxiety, I always had an awkward approach to girls and have made a fool out of myself many times because I never had the guts to talk to them or held a conversation with them. As a result of that, most of them thought I was a freak or a weirdo. As I've gotten older, it's a little easier for me to flirt and be friendly with girls who I have an interest in, but it's still very difficult, and they have to at least initiate something, because it's hard for me to do that.

I've been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years, and its going great, I feel we have a very strong relationship. We live together and spend very little time outside of school & work not together

Before that I had been single for about 3-4 months. Since 16-17 I've spent very little time not in some sort of relationship

Three years with my NT boyfriend...not sure I'd call it romantic though (I dislike romance).

Female, diagnosed. I'm not in a long-term relationship and never have been. Then again, I'm only 18...there's still time.

5 years (almost) of non romantic relationship.

What makes it non-romantic? (different people could interpret that different ways)

Same here, it's been 28 1/2 years since then - Still going strong

I'm a diagnosed female, and have been with my boyfriend for much longer than I was married to my NT ex-husband. I think my boyfriend has Aspie traits, and when I came out to him as being diagnosed, he was supportive. I think my ex-husband would have used my diagnosis as another way to verbally abuse me, so it was a good thing the diagnosis came after the divorce was finalized.

I look at these results and think one thing: sub-clinical.

No I'm not. I have girl parts, and I'm diagnosed with AS.

Disagree -
I have a couple of theories - I do tend to agree with Simon Baron-Cohen re: the extreme male brain and autism - therefore I think that it can be easier for a female (not saying it always is) to be in a long term relationship with a male - in my relationship my husband has never been bothered by questions from me about his feelings, neither of us is that emotionally needy; he is freer to pursue some of his own interests due to my need for alone time and my own "special interests"; this works for us.

Temple Grandin has also stated that people of her generation (I'm somewhat younger but still "older") were made to learn good manners and, while difficult to learn at the time, this hasn't been a completely negative thing, it has been helpful in relationships.