a friend in your head

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I have imaginary friends in my head and I imagine us doing things together or having conversations and so on and I imagine what things might be like if they really existed and if they met the real people in my life and such.

I don't really have many friends or people who I'm close to or can hang out with, so I use my imaginary friends to keep me company and seek support.

By the way, threads like this one are one of the reasons why WP is such a cool place. Can you imagine any other place where you could talk openly about things like these without people judging you and treating you like a nutcase for sharing information like this?

Seeing some of the responses:

I tend to imagine imaginary people (and entities that I see as people but perhaps not everyone else would have) rather than imagining real people. I have caught myself going full bore into an imagined conversation with a real person, and I think sometimes this is a good way to vent frustrations, but I know I'm not really venting to the actual person, just an imaginary effigy.

I do this all the time, it's like daydreaming. It's always real people that I know. I imagine conversations we could have. I don't think its "practice", just my way of entertaining myself. It probably is a little weird, lol, but being weird is not against the law.

mine are more like lost teleri's

I am not practising (though I do that too) but maybe just obsessing, but I am obsessing over the imaginary version of the real person not the actual real person because they are always very different yet have the same voice.

The person has to be someone I feel an illogical connection to but when I am with them in real life I will not expect them to resemble the imaginary version but I would probably feel uncomfotable but then I may do anyway just because I feel a connection and would like to get to know them better anyway yet then I would be disappointed.

I am not practising because it is usally made up scenarios and conversations but in my head all the time, everything I want to talk about is to them and if I want a hug then I imagine some scenario where I fel I would be desrving of one and they would give it to me. If they really did that I would probably freeze or pull away, it would be wierd if the real version of the person did it.

One person will stay with me for years as long as I am seeing them occasionally and they don't annoy me.

I talk to an 'unautistic version' of myself a lot, in my head. Conscience? I dunno.

One of my most vivid memories of childhood is looking over at my father (who has many AS traits) while he was driving and seeing his hands subtly moving as if to illustrate a point and his lips moving as if he were engrossed in conversation. He would do that all the time. Just in his own world.

made me smile!!

That's not true, there's plenty of forums such as topix that caters for sharing this type of experience. What is unique here is the number of people with shared experiences. But you are right I'd certainly never contemplate discussing this online ad I'd obviously open myself up to NTs exposing potential psychological vulnerabilities.

Another added dimension to self discussion is manipulating dreams, something i was able to do as a child. Recently I've started being able to do it again since I gave up drinking a few years ago. One recent dream I vividly remembered speaking to an elfin creature at my university that resembled the elfin beings in lord of the rings except the creatures face was female version of tennis star Boris Becker. I vividly recalled conversation I had after we went for a ride on my motorbike and climbed a spiral staircase together.

I asked the being about career choices and he (it) listened to my selection ...IT, business, science etc....he finally advised me to study trade.....I never understood what he meant, can anyone see a subconscious translation for my dreamworld friend's advice?

I have whole scenarios in my head involving people I know. Also, I always seem to have this running conversation in my head with a counselor or psychiatrist but maybe that's because I desperately want to see one.
I always have these daydreams of me having a life where I'm happy and cool and talented, and that includes a whole bunch of made up friends and scripted conversations. Basically anything that make me look better than the people who bring me down.
Do you know Modern Family? The way they have these reality-show type segments? I'm like that. I'm always explaining something to someone in my head.

Usually it's a version of me with a different voice. The voice always changeable the personality stays the same. Currently, it's Audrey Hepburn xD

Other times, it's one of my original characters or a character from a movie or a book I'm reading.

And just like the above person, I am constantly imagining scenarios in my ear that NEVER end up happening. Usually I am angry or very depress in these scenarios, but I've found that's just to relieve stress. I suspect this may be how I manage not to cry during times normal girls would cry.

As for my "friend," she/he encourages me or listens to me or gives me advice I already know. xP

You are all lucky! My inner conversations involve high school classmates I don't even like in real life, and I don't want to see again.

I try to change the characters inside my head, but I don't know many people who can replace the ones I have.

This is quite common with manic depressives too. They have soap operas inside their heads.

I used to have recurring thoughts about conversations I had with kids in school. I was not mr popular and was subject to a daily dose of derision and condescension. I initially had problems blanking these conversations from my head but with time they fade away.

I'm not so lucky. I have to deal with real-life jerks in my head all the time.

Even worse, there is a presence in my head. He yells at me, a lot. Therapy has managed to help silence him, but he is not completely gone. He does not use words, but I know what he wants to say. When I do manage to convert feelings into words, he sounds a lot like my father.

My inner conversations star a cooler, witty version of me, someone I have a crush on/ like to be cool and witty with, and someone I hate witnessing how cool and witty I am. Yeah, I'm pathetic like that but it's how I cope. On the downside, it makes me kind of delusional and being hit in the face with reality hurts all the more.

Yensid, I know how you feel. There's someone in my head I can't shut up, but it's very likely that we would be able to. It's our freaking MIND after all. But for some reason it doesn't go away. I wonder why.

I am 46 years old and I've done this all my life. Usually it's a good thing in some way. I often have conversations in my head with people I like in real life. Often it's with people with whom I actually have some rapport with, but in my head we get much more involved with each other!

In high school I used to have conversations with older people, like a favorite teacher. In my head she wound up knowing much more about me than she did in real life. I would imagine her giving me advice. It often relieved anxiety.

Sometimes I do this when I've had a difficulty with someone in real life and I imagine a way to discuss with the person. I have found myself doing this a lot in the past few weeks, for example, with various people, over some big problems we are all dealing with that are hard to address. So it can be a form of practice.

Sometime i also just do this for fun. Like the person who remembers her father having conversations in his head while driving, i have over the years surprised my kids now and then when i would burst out laughing over a joke that was told in my head.

And here I thought I was the only one. Being a writer, I have quite a number of people I have in my head. All with their own lives. But I also have someone in my mind I talk to as well, someone that has been with me for years now. Sometimes I'd like to think that it's almost like tapping into another dimension of reality, that you are attuned to another plane of thought. I feel comforted by it, and also feel unique that I have this trait.