Do you deny your ASD?

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Oh yep, I definitely deny it.

Sorry, I couldn't keep that up.

I don't deny it and I'm comfortable to tell people about it but I don't tell everyone I meet.

I'll never deny my AS, because if I do then I deny who I am. I'll tell people who I know well and trust, but I'll never tell my employer.

I still have a few doubts about the diagnosis so I am tempted to deny.

I do admit I have gone through phases in my life where I denied my AS. I think I was in denial when I was first diagnosed because I didn't want to be different so I tried even harder at being normal and I would literally forget I even had AS until my mother would mention it and then I would forget about it again eventually. I didn't even know what it was back then either. The word didn't stick to my brain until I was 14 and then all of a sudden I was blaming everything on it and I think that is what my mother meant by I used it as an excuse.

Nope. Why would I deny who I am? I shouldn't have to be ashamed of myself.

There have been moments in my life were its been something i've put into the back of mind as an after thought. Not so much denial, just that it's not that important or i've "overcome" the condition and its not a big issue anymore. This would have been in my late adolescene and early 20's Then I got told I couldn't do something because I had aspergers....basically I was discriminated against by a doctor who knew sweet FA and I had to start taking my diagnosis more seriously.

These days it would be a bit odd for me to kinda deny my diagnosis as it goes hand in hand with what I do for a living anyway. I also find once people know about what I get up too they sometimes self disclose themselves so usually other people i speak too are the first ones to disclose their diagnosis to me

Most of you got a diagnosis at childhood that must be very different. I lived 43 years without one, so its actually more natural for me to deny ASD, and get on with life like I did before the diagnosis.

Actually I would say this forum is overwhelmed with those diagnosed in adulthood informally or formally. People like myself diagnosed at 10 and simialir age ranges are the minority. I imagine most people diagnosed 19 years ago like myself are either comfortable in a niche and getting on with their lives with the knowledge of AS in the background or they are in some kind of supported living or secure accomodation if they went down the wrong route in life.

I am 41, I first found out at 38, and I finally really acknowledged it last winter.

Getting on with life was precisely my problem, however. I wasn't managing to do that.

I would probably not mention it unless I had to. Most people that know me already know anyway.

Try two?

I don't think I thought properly when I was writing the original post. I just meant to you tell people, or do you deny it, or do you tell everyone, or do you get embarrassed/ashamed of it, or do you act like you've never heard of it if it ever got brought up in any conversation?

I've always denied it through school, and I still don't like people knowing I have it now. But I do talk about it a lot to my close relatives now, (eg my mum and her sisters), and although I still don't use the word ''Aspergers'' much, I still talk about life's challenges it causes me to face.

I'm much more cool with people who've come to know me finding out rather than telling people who don't know me at all. People who've interacted with me just go "oh, well you are a bit weird sometimes. Wait is that why you remember all that stuff?". People who haven't known me at all tend to jump to the talking to deaf/old/stupid people cliche "YOU'VE BEEN SO GOOD, WOULDN'T IT BE NICE IF WE SAT DOWN AND HAD SOME BISCUITS?". Or they want me to tell them what weekday the 15th of May in 1975 was, which, yeah, I don't give two tugs of a... I don't care about that. I will get furious at people who talk to me as though I'm an idiot and lay into them, which seems to surprise them so much, they're like that snake that thought it had a harmless little rodent and now realizees that oh crap, that's a mongoose.

I don't get embarrassed or ashamed, although I will get angry at people who disclose without my permission. When it comes up in conversations I don't see any reason to bring up that I have it if people talking don't know I have it. Similarly if the few people I have told are in the conversation I trust them not to say anything unless I do. But I will mention I'm familiar with it and correct any misconceptions since most people know I have a family member who is HFA. I won't deny it directly if asked, but I will deflect the question and launch a passive counter, y'know, ask the person saying it why they would think that, would that be a problem if I were and did they know anything about AS. No one's ever accused me of being autistic or having AS though, most people I've told didn't even have any clue what it was.

I can mostly pass though, people just assume I'm a gigantic nerd (which I am) so minor weirdness tends to get written off as "Oh, you're one of those computer nerds ain't 'cha? Yeah, you guys are all so weird".

I tell people when a situation arises that I have Asperger's---such as when a conversation leads to something that can be related to autism.

I am not ashamed or embarrassed of having Asperger's.

I am extremely content with my life. Asperger's has allowed me to have incredibly fascinating special intense interests that I deeply enjoy. Asperger's has allowed me the ability to play (in little time and without lessons or training) musical instruments that I become fascinated with. Although I have challenges in life (as everyone does), I am thankful for having Asperger's---I cannot imagine life without it.

I don't often mention it. People tend to think its a excuse or something.

Also not technically on my medical records as I referred myself for assessment.

i am, like most on this thread apperantly, on the 'dont ask, dont tell' front.
i wont tell others i have aspergers on the first time i meet them, or even later on; but if a situation arises where my ASD becomes visible, i will use it as an explanation, and i also wont deny it if anyone offers a suspiction about me being 'slightly autistic'.
basically, i keep the autistic me hidden if at all possible, hiding in plain sight, but i will reveal my true self if needed.